Last year, DP cheated on me. I was completely devastated and we broke up for a few months while he was with his OW but very quickly he realised he had made a mistake and eventually we got back together.
There is no excuse for what he did but things with us were complicated at the time and I understand that he felt differently at that time about us than he does now so I have managed to move past it and things have been good ever since.
I know he still speaks to OW occasionally, they are friends on FB etc, which I'm not particularly happy about but I feel I don't want to be controlling and tell him who he can and can't speak to. It has always seemed that their interactions have been on a very casual, occasional basis up until this point.
Yesterday we were having a conversation about stuff and she came up, she had insulted him joking on a fb post, then said 'love you' in a jokey way. He said it back. Now I'm not overly keen on that kind of thing anyway as I believe if you say you love someone you should mean it but I could see it was just a stupid jokey exchange. It then came out that he had been talking with her quite a bit more than he had previously made out, they had discussed the fact that they miss each other and wouldn't it be nice to meet up (as friends) and catch up at some point etc etc.
Now, I know the likelyhood of him physically meeting up with her is very slim as she has moved to the other side of the country (think, 700 mile round trip) but I am just fuming and so hurt and upset that he is chatting away with her merrily, saying that he loves her (however jokingly), saying that he misses her, wanting to meet up etc. Bearing in mind that this is the person who almost completely destroyed our relationship (obviously he was guilty of that too). I just feel it's so disrespectful of him, like he doesn't realise or care that that might upset me.
I asked him how he would feel if I was having similar conversations with my ex and he said I can 'do what I want'. It felt so dismissive, like he totally doesn't give a shit if I'm flirting with other blokes or not.
It's not like he's engaged in an EA with her (as far as I know), and I know he hasn't physically done anything. He hasn't lied about talking to her. I just feel so angry and upset but I'm not sure why. Aibu?
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Shinyredbike · 26/06/2015 11:33
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