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AIBU to think this is quite bitchy behaviour or am I just being over-sensitive?

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BrokenLullaby Sun 25-Aug-13 21:17:09

We had quite nice weather last week so a friend arranged for her, me and two other friends to meet up at a local pub for a drink after work.

We all live in the same town but they live very close together so they would have arranged to walk down together. I got there a little late as I have quite a long way to drive from work, had already told friend I could be late depending on traffic.

Anyway when I got there I assumed they would be sat outside, I drove by but couldn't see them and there was quite a lot of people there. This is going to sound pathetic but I'm not a very confident person and I don't like just walking into places by myself (silly I admit) so I thought I would ring them to make sure they were there.

Rang friend A - no answer, rang friend B - no answer, rang friend B again she picked up told me where they were and I went in to meet them. The signal is quite rubbish in that area so I didn't think anything of it.

Yesterday I went over to friend C's house for coffee and I was told that when I rang friend A she looked at her phone and went "why is she ringing me?" hmm and then purposely didn't answer her phone.

When I rang friend B's phone, friend A said "Friend B don't answer it". When I rang again Friend C pretty much said - "what the hell is the problem just answer the phone" - which is the only reason my friend B did.

I was quite upset by it because if I could see them I wouldn't have been sat in my car trying to ring them I would have just gone straight over to them. And if it was the other way around I wouldn't have even hesitated answering my friends call - it would have been a non-issue.

Aibu to think Friend A's behaviour was quite bitchy and to a certain extent so was Friend B's or am I just being ridiculously over sensitive about it all?

Therealamandaclarke Mon 26-Aug-13 12:23:45

Nd if they had seen her park it would mean they knew she hadn't been held up elsewhere. It meant they (or at least A) were being "funny" about her ringing.
Which is why I said I thought it wasn't nice.

Therealamandaclarke Mon 26-Aug-13 12:26:30

And yes to He11y I think I would do that if I were waiting for a friend.
But I am not A, B, or C.

alemci Mon 26-Aug-13 13:44:40

what is a Wendy type. BTW my name isn't Wendy but most one's that I know are very pleasant and unassuming.

YouStayClassySanDiego Mon 26-Aug-13 14:09:22

I want to know how C brought the subject up about A not answering her phone and why it was brought up..

garlicbargain Mon 26-Aug-13 14:24:12

Almeci -

marriedinwhiteisback Mon 26-Aug-13 15:01:25

Thinking about this and having read your OP again. You were coming from work (do they work? Have jobs as good as yours?). You live on the other side of town (is it the nicer part of town). There are bits of your life that sound different to yours. Suddenly gets a whiff of the green eyed monster.

Move on OP. I know it's hard to make new friends bt it's not so hard to take up new interests and they lead to meeting new people. You deserve better than what sound like hubble bubble, toil and trouble.

alemci Mon 26-Aug-13 15:10:27

thanks garlic. I get you now

Thumbwitch Mon 26-Aug-13 15:21:55

It's a funny thing, but if someone wonders why someone else if phoning them, then USUALLY the sanest thing to do is answer their phone to find out, not ignore it and tell another person to ignore theirs too...

garlicbargain Mon 26-Aug-13 15:41:16

Thumb grin

Therealamandaclarke Mon 26-Aug-13 15:58:22

Good points married and * thumb*

ViviPru Mon 26-Aug-13 18:23:40

Interesting the OP STILL hasn't expanded on the nature of the conversation with friend C in spite of so many posters asking her to....

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