My DP picks me up mosts evenings from my house at 7.30pm. I don't drive but have offered to get public transport he said he doesn't mind getting me.
Every now and then it takes me a tiny while longer to get ready. So I might be 10 minutes late. He waits outside in the car for me and I always apologise.
BUT... Sometimes he finishes work early or on a weekend when he's not working he turns up 30 minutes to an hour early. I then have to run around getting ready and it really annoys me. He also texts me in a jokey way telling me to hurry up. He just texts me saying "outside" and expects me to come straight out. I've been in the bath before now and he's text saying he's outside.
I've told him that I think it's annoying and he should text me if he's leaving earlier to see if I'm ready and he justs says okay. I've also said I think it's rude and he just says that I'm late all the time.
I've offered to use public transport but he said he likes coming to get me.
Apart from him turning up early we have a great relationship.
AIBU? I'm not, am I? Is it as rude as I think it is.
AIBU?
to think that in some cases being early is as rude as being late?
Naysa · 18/01/2013 18:45
Whoops should have mentioned that. I still live with my parents.
My mum is great and he'll cone in when it's just her but my Dad is really aggressive and when we have guests he gets really cold and irratible. Even his own mother won't come in when he's here.
My dad and my Dp work similar hours so my dad is in the house when Dp comes to get me. He said he'd prefer to wait outside than cause issues for my mum and sister by putting my dad in a bad mood. 
Tell him to come in and wait 
Failing that, maybe you should tip up outside in your bath towel/ undies and see what he makes of that 
oops, x-post sorry!
Try the jumping in the car in whatever state you are in trick.... he might start arriving later, or he might not 
I'm not allowed guests in my room 
I've never had a sleep over here when I was a child and my best friend of 8 years - who is a girl - has seen the upstairs of my house a handful of times and my bedroon once.
Sounds really stupid seeing it written down but I go with it so I don't cause trouble for my mum.
It can be rude, but in this case it's not.
When he's finishing work early, what do you expect him to do. Just drive around waiting until the right time? Or sit on a street nearby until he's allowed to wait on yours?
If he's not working and is coming straight from home, I can understand it being irritating. Not rude though.
Your dad sounds rude.
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