help please...to not let my 6yr old have his cheescake??urgent answers please as he rather upset and stormed off to his room

[prettypinkchristmastree]

Just had our yummy sunday roast. Toffee cheescake for puddin and squirty cream.. I set all the cheescakes out and get the squirty cream out start squirting and nothing ....Now this has happened on 3 other occasions when none of us have had any and my son who has a tendency to help himself to food out of the fridge (which am trying to stop by putting him in time out) has been the previous culprit. i obviously blamed him and said right you are not having it now and out it in the fridge. Now i suppose it could have been my other 3 dc daughter 9 (never bothers helping self without asking) or 3 year old twins but they wouldnt be able to squeeze out. it my son who is typically doing theses sorts of things. He not upset now just came down got his teddy in his pyjamas. I said you still not having it he said ."i know" so am i being unreasonable or have i done the right thing???????

[prettypinkchristmastree]

ps sorry for grammar. rushing as need an answer.xx

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

If he's not arguing about it, you probably have the right culprit.
To be truly fair, you have to eat his cheesecake and not give it to him later.
Been there, stick to your guns.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

The twins would have made a huge mess for you to clear up.
Action=consequence here.

[SuePurblybilt]

Oh, once he'd been all sad and just said "I know" I'd have caved. But I am clearly a terrible parent, I am sure you're doing the right thing.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Fourth time BTP?
You'd still let him have the cheesecake?

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you are doing the right thing

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Aaargh!

[prettypinkchristmastree]

Ha ha. Thanks goblin.... I am sure i will find a somewere to hide it lol later.:-)x

[aquos]

In situations like this I usually trust my gut instinct. But if I can't be 100% sure who the culprit is I will say "I believe it was you because of xyz, but if I find out I am wrong I will apologise and put things right". I've never yet had to apologise. Have also told the story about the boy who cried wolf to illustrate my point.

[LadyOfTheManor]

I wouldn't allow a huge secret food stealing thing to continue. I'm also a table Nazi...I wouldn't have allowed him any.

Fridge lock perhaps? One that goes on the top of the fridge where he can't reach?

[activate]

he can have it tomorrow but not today (but you can't tell him that)

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BeerTricksPotter - yes

[Lollyheart]

I would still give him his pudding but I'm soft

And get a fridge lock.

[shuffleballchange]

Aw, let him have it. I would. Maybe thats why my DS1, also 6 is a little horror sometimes

[fifitrixibellesmith]

whats wrong with you that you need to ask a bunch of strangers what to do

poor kid

[TheOriginalFAB]

YABU to use squirty cream on a cheese cake.

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parenting inertia innit

always nice to know other mums agree with your actions

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Gor Blimey!
You soppy lot.
My DS doesn't snaffle treat food without asking any more, because of the training when young. He also writes replacements on the shopping list.
You tell 'em no and you teach 'em what fair shares means.

[fivegomadindorset]

YABU. get real cream rather than squirty stuff.

[prettypinkchristmastree]

Thanks all...Think i did the right thing and if the time out thing still discontinues to work then i think a fridge lock, cupboard locks freezer lock lol may be the only answer.xx

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Well, this teacher bloomin' well doesn't!

[squeakytoy]

I wouldnt let him have it. Children should not help themselves to the contents of the fridge.

[pointydog]

yabu.

Very frustrating to have your pudding taken away from under your nose. Think of another consequence for the cream.