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AIBU?

To not accept this free kindle?

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LiegeAndLief · 17/08/2011 19:47

A good friend got a kindle recently, and absolutely loved it. Her dd managed to get hold of it and the screen got cracked (not witnessed so not sure exactly how it happened!). Friend was distraught and ordered new kindle immediately. There was a line across the old kindle screen but it was still readable, so she offered to lend it to me so I could peruse her vast collection of fanfic improve my mind with literature.

Unfortunately, the screen got worse and after I charged it it became completely unreadable. I googled "cracked kindle screen" to see if there was anything I could do to reset it and discovered that the kindle screen apparently cracks easily and Amazon were being very generous about replacing them when under warranty.

So friend rang Amazon and they are sending a new one over, very few questions asked. She wants to give it to me. I said I couldn't possibly accept it. She said she couldn't possibly accept any money for it.

To avoid drip feeding - she has a lot more disposable income than me. I would like a kindle but can't afford one - I have mentioned asking for a reconditioned one for Christmas. I know she is being incredibly kind but they are worth over £100 and I feel I cannot possibly just take it from her! She is adamant she won't accept any money at all.

WWYD?

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whackamole · 17/08/2011 19:49

I would probably refuse a couple of times but then would accept if she was adamant.

But then I am of the opinion that unless you mean it, don't offer it.

mycatoscar · 17/08/2011 19:50

I can see where you are coming from but it does sound like she is tyring to do something nice for ould you offer something other than money? Maybe a nights baby sitting or an invite over for a dinner party or something?

Takitezee · 17/08/2011 19:51

What is making you uncomfortable about accepting it?

iamabadger · 17/08/2011 19:51

So she bought a whole new one for herself rather than just getting it replaced after the first scratch? Sounds like she really wants to give you a present, accept it gratefully! What a good friend!

suzikettles · 17/08/2011 19:51

Take the Kindle. Let your friend feel good by doing something nice for someone.

Enjoy it.

Dilligaf81 · 17/08/2011 19:51

Id accept but buy her a nice bottle of wine as a thank you.
Ive posted on her befprre about extravagant gifts from much richer friends and noone said to refuse it but be grateful and appreciative.

Enjoy the kindle

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 17/08/2011 19:51

I would accept it, say thank you very much and offer to babysit for her and stuff like that.

Sometimes friends just do really nice and generous things for one another.

iklboo · 17/08/2011 19:52

Could you (reluctantly) accept it & maybe buy her some flowers/wine or take her to lunch as a thank you?

wonkylegs · 17/08/2011 19:52

Accept in graciously and give her something thoughtful in return (doesn't have to be of great value but thoughtful and with effort) .... Frame a great picture of her kids or sort out something that she's been meaning to do for ages

Pandemoniaa · 17/08/2011 19:52

I'd accept her kind offer. It isn't as if anyone is cheating Amazon out of anything since she's already replaced the Kindle she lent you. What would she want with two of them?

ButWhyIsTheGinGone · 17/08/2011 19:52

Accept it! It's really nice when people display real generosity - sure you will find a way to reciprocate?

DecapitatedLegoman · 17/08/2011 19:52

Wheesht with the protestations woman, if you can't accept it tell her I'll have it

Seriously, buy bottle of wine and cake, give to friend, say "Thank you", enjoy kindle.

joric · 17/08/2011 19:52

She wants you to have it, you want it. Your friend sounds lovely so I'd accept - maybe say that it's so generous it must be b'day and Xmas gifts for ever otherwise it would be too much for you to accept- or insist on taking her out for a meal (or such like) on you?

nomorelego · 17/08/2011 19:53

She's not losing out on anything is she? The other one's already bought. And she's only got it cause you found out that she could. Is it the moral issue of her breaking it and getting a replacement that you're worried about or just whether you should pay her for it?

If the latter, can you insist on (for example) paying next time you go out for lunch/drink or do something useful for her?

Bintata · 17/08/2011 19:54

You should accept because she is doing something nice for you. She is probably looking at it that she already has another Kindle, so it would be pointless for her to have two and she wouldn't be getting a replacement if you hadn't googled.

As mycatoscar says, offer her a nights babysitting or something and be pleased she is such a good friend that she would think of your happiness as she knows how much you would like a kindle.

deariedearieme · 17/08/2011 19:54

have you tried saying NO THANK YOU I DO NOT WANT IT

ilovesooty · 17/08/2011 19:56

Accept it.

I'm just bemused at the fact she got a free replacement from Amazon. When my screen cracked through an accident I had to pay.

LiegeAndLief · 17/08/2011 19:57

She is really lovely.

Takitezee, I'm not sure what makes me so uncomfortable - she has been really generous to us, she passes on all her dd's gorgeous clothes to my dd, has given spare toys etc. I feel like I have nothing to give back to her!

Am secretly quite glad that you are all coming down in favour of accepting though

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Takitezee · 17/08/2011 19:59

If there's nothing specific then it's probably that you think you shouldn't rather than don't want to. It's just the way we are in general.

Accept it, your friendship is obviously enough for her.

TheMonster · 17/08/2011 20:00

She doesn't need two and she has offered kindly. Take it and enjoy

zukiecat · 17/08/2011 20:00

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DizzyKipper · 17/08/2011 20:01

I can understand why you wouldn't want it, I'm similar. But at the same time it seems a shame to miss out on something you do actually want and which your friend is happy to give to you, yet pride (or whatever you want to call it) won't let you. My mum didn't want to accept petrol money when taking us to view a car, so me and my OH gave her car a deep clean (it took 2 of us 4 hours - her car had been severely forgotten about when it came to cleaning). Could you not do something along those lines? Something you wouldn't otherwise do, but which your friend would be deeply appreciative of?

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LiegeAndLief · 17/08/2011 20:01

nomorelego, no not the moral issue - I figure if Amazon are happy to replace it that's fine, she didn't lie to them.

deariedearieme - problem is I do want it! Just feel awful accepting, I don't know, maybe like a charity case? Although I don't think she'd think of it like that.

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lazybitch · 17/08/2011 20:03

dont say that ilovesooty, now op is going to wonder if her friend really got a replacement or purchased her another! ;-)

bluesgal · 17/08/2011 20:07

You say you dont give her anything, but you have given her your friendship which is obviously something she values.

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