Right bit of a situation this morning that has left me confused as to what to do and your help!
My mum looked after my daughter this morning who is 8 years old, had an appointment so asked her to babysit for an hour which she did.
During this time (and all this is information I have just found out) my mum let her play on her facebook account (my mum's account, my daughter is too young and not allowed one) on a game called Farmville.
I don't allow my daughter to play Facebook games at all, my mum dosn't know that I don't allow it as it has never been spoke about but I have never said I allow it either.
Anyway whilst playing on Facebook my daughter has managed to spend just over £70 from my mum's bank acocunt!
I enquired as to how this had happened and my mum explained that her card details are saved with Facebook as she pays for a few games and it means that no passwords etc. are required to buy items on these games hence my daughter was able to do it.
My mum came round very angry as her bank account has been emptied and made it clear she expects me to give her the money back. I do not under any circumstances have £70 to just hand someone, we are seriously struggling financially at the moment.
Here is my thoughts:
- It was my mum who gave my daughter permission to play the game on her account, not me.
- My mum was the person in charge watching my daughter at this time and so should have been supervising what she was doing online and not leaving her to do what she wants.
- My mum was the one to save her card details to facebook and then give an 8 year old permission to play the game knowing they are stored.
What the hell do I do?
My mum has a nasty temper and I know full well if I refuse to pay this money it will all kick off, she has been known to make threats, bad mouth me to family, call social services with false reports etc. On top of this she has told my sister what happened who immediately sent me a text message saying you had better get that money quick to give her back.
They are all fuming at my daughter for doing this, she is 8 years old for god sake and had no idea what she was doing, it was the first time she had played the game, she did not know it charges real money!
Should I:
- Pay the whole bill - would have to borrow money to do so
- Pay half the bill - would have to borrow again but more managable
- Refuse to pay - huge big kick off and family fall out
What would you do if it was your child?
What would you do if you were the person who this had happened to (ie. your grandchild)?