I have 3 DDs, DD2 and DD3 love ballet.
The ballet school that they go to gives the children an opportunity to do an intensive course for 2 weeks, then at the end of it they put on 7 shows to the public. The ballet is magnificent, the costumes are outstanding (last year one of my dd's wore a dress that cost £1000!) - thankfully we are not asked to pay for costumes . But its at a cost of £275 per child, I still have to drive them there every day, lunches , pocket money for shop visit at lunch time, new satin ballet slipper, new tights and then tickets to see the show. I honestly do not mind paying etc.....
I never make them do this fortnight, its their choice. DD2 has already done 2 of these work shops, DD3 did it for the 1st time last yr.
Each time I have asked them to pay half, this means that they normally give us (DH and I) their Christmas and birthday money. Our DDs normally do get what they ask for Christmas (thankfully it has always been in our price budget!!!) so they are never without at Christmas.
Today, I have had a massive fallout with my mother (that in its self is another story) but she told me that I should not make my children pay for half of the ballet, her words were that if I couldn't afford to send them on this fortnight then they should not go. I should be ashamed of myself for even thinking that it is okay.
Am I really scarring them to ask to pay half? This year DD3 actually did not get the full amount of money from birthday and Christmas money, we have not made a big deal and just paid the extra bit. As far as I am concerned she is contributing towards it - thats it!
I would find it hard to pay for both of them to do the ballet plus all the extras. I thought that I had found a solution that suited them and my purse strings.
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To ask DD's to pay half towards an intensive ballet workshop fortnight
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mynaughtylittlesister · 23/07/2011 00:02
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