I have for the third year running found out by accident that she has given him a large sum of money and they have agreed that I was not to know. It is for his use only. He cannot afford his golf club fees and so she pays it for him.
Last year we were offered a place in a fab school for our daughter which costs about £2,000 a term. We asked if she could help us out with the fees because we weren't sure if we could manage and she refused saying she didn't agree with us sending our daughter to a private school, (it isn't its a grant maintained at a third of the cost) and if state school was good enough for her son it was good enough for our daughter (we tried to explain it was state school but just a bit different but she was having none of it). Anyway through childcare vouchers and me getting more hours at work, and doing more hours in my own business we have managed with a struggle. Meanwhile she spends time bragging to her neighbours about the wonderful school her daughter is going to and showing off the photos of her in her special parade uniform.
Well just after refusing this assistance she paid for his golf club fees saying he deserved it as he got nothing for himself. He didn't tell me about it I found out by stealth.
This year our house has a major expensive problem and we can't get it fixed. This time again, she has given him a lump sum to pay for the golf, which he has kept secret. I am livid. I have told him I am out and have told him its the last straw.
We have a long history of lying about time off work, money spent, money earnt, time spent on the golf course, etc etc. Claiming to be at work when he is a football matches or playing golf. If and when I ever discover one of these lies and confront him he calls me a control freak.
She lies a lot too, exaggerating everything about her life including the miriad of ailments. I have told him to tell his mother she will never enjoy my hospitality again (she gave this money to him on the way home from a four day visit where I waited on her never once making even a cup of tea).
Am I right to be so blummin angry? I am shaking just typing this three days after the discovery.
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Neeliethere · 08/07/2011 21:13
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