Lurked on here for a long time so finally feeling like I can post!
Married for 3 years. Never have felt that maternal longing for kids. My DH likes kids but has no burning desire for his own. We love our nieces and nephews but are so glad when they leave as they are such hard work!
We have been talking lately about when we should have kids and are fast coming to the conclusion that we might not be the type of people to ant kids!
My mum will be gutted and I worry in case I might regret it when its too late.
I like our life as it is, I work very long hours in a career I love and get to travel alot with my job. Id worry Id resent having to give that up.
Its a hot topic at the moment as EVERYONE asks us about the pitter patter and everyone seems to assume its when and not if.
AIBU to think we may have decided that actually no, we wont have children?
(Im aware of the irony of being on mumsnet but I joined thinking the kids where the next natural step)
AIBU?
to think that we actually might be just as happy by ourselves?
kidsscareme · 05/06/2011 21:31
Do you have siblings who have or will have children? If so your mother will obviously be disappointed that you have none, but she will still have grandchildren if this is really important to her.
At the age of 32 I was in a steady relationship but we could not imagine having children. By the time I was 37 my son was born! Things change, you never know what might happen 
at Mumanator!
YANBU....not everyone has to have kids to be fulfilled.
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I was in your situation OP and allowed my DH to 'persuade' me to have a DC after many years of marriage and making a conscious decision before we got married that we would not have children. I regret the fact that we did have a DC - its obviously not something I talk about in RL and to all intents and purposes we probably 'appear' to be a very happy family; I don't have to work, I appear to be a devoted mum, my DH is a great father yet I am very aware I made the wrong choice.
Mumanator that is a ridiculous statement, in my opinion most parents appear totally self absorbed in their children. I personally had an incredibly fulfilling life style before I had a child - ironically much of it devoted to voluntary work with other people's children which I no longer have the energy or enthusiasm to do anymoe 
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Do not allow other peoples expectations to make the decision for you.
Um, well..........heres the thing, if you dont want children, why are you lurking on a parenting site? not that its a problem but most people on MUMSnet are either parents or prospective parents, TTc or at least thinking about it. Thats not a criticism, just can't see what would you would find relevant on this site - apart form maybe the bunfights on AIBU . Secondly, why then are you even posting the Q if you are happy with your decision not to contribute to world overcrowding? Reason why i ask is..............methinks the lady doth protest too much and you might, without even knowing it yourself, actually, want children. I totally understand you wanting to preserve your lifestyle, and it is possible to a degree with children, but i find they change EVERYTHING, your total perception of the world around you changes when you become a parent and for me, it has made my life seem relevant. Thats just me though - you are absolutely not being unreasonable to not have children if you dont want them, that would be very unreasonable and enough people go and do just that, but what i say is this - Never say never!!
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