OK, so, here are the facts so far:
Dh (has one older brother with a ds and dd)
Me (only child)
Dd 3.7yo
Ds 11mo
MIL and FIL (live hour and a quarter away)
My aunt (always does Christmas at her large house)
When dh and I were childfree , we used to alternate Christmas Day. Since we had dd, Christmas has been spent thus:
2007 My family (us, mum and dad, aunty, cousins, nan and grandad)
2008 Dh's parents attended my family Christmas - it was a little awkward, tbh
2009 My family Christmas (ds was 2 weeks old and v. poorly, so thank God we were near home)
So, now dd is 3.7, she is very excited about Christmas, and I want to go wherever she will enjoy it the most, regardless of what we've done in the past.
The ideal scenario in my eyes would be to spend it with MIL and FIL, with BIL and SIL and their dc, who dd loves, and whom are her age.
However, SIL's father is undergoing chemo, so they are unsure about what is happening at Christmas. SIL is very insular anyway, and her preferred Christmas Day is with the dc at home, with no guests, regardless of what's happening with her dad.
Dh is worried that his mum and dad will be on their own on Christmas Day (despite MIL's protestations that she's not bothered, whether you believe that or not).
If BIL and SIL are not going to be at MIL's house, then I think we should spend Christmas Day with my family, whom are a little more, erm, excitable, shall we say? MIL and FIL are steady, to say the least, and dd would be bored to tears spending Christmas Day just with them.
Dh has suggested that we change tradition and have my parents, along with his parents to our house. I cannot get him to understand, that my extended family (and by that I mean my nan and grandad, and my aunt etc) would be really upset about this, and I know my mum wouldn't consider it, and I understand why.
So, we are at a stalemate. I just want dd to enjoy herself, and if her cousins were going to be there, then I would absolutely go to MIL and FIL's house. But it seems that they're not, and I don't want Christmas Day to be spent staring at the in-laws, and watching the tv.
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Pinkjenny · 10/11/2010 10:43
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