I am posting for honest instinctive responses and questions which might help me reflect.
I make friends exceptionally easily.
After a few years, my friends seem to dump me. Never unkindly. More slow fade and boundary setting.
What is wrong with how I am as a friend?
By boundary setting I mean, they don't initiate conversations, say they are too busy to meet and seem to cut conversations short. At which point I obviously don't stay in touch either.
I am passionate, opinionated and always reply to texts as soon as I can. I am often asked for advice by friends.
In the early days of friendship people say things like, "you totally understand me", "I'd be lost without you", "you are amazing".
After a few years they just seem to move on.
I'd really like to keep friends for longer while understanding some will be transitory.
I'm not quite sure what I'm doing wrong.
I am a bit lax at birthdays (I don't celebrate my own) but do mark them and attend the events, buy a gift.
Be honest. I can take it.
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Am I a problem friend? Honesty welcome
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Mountaingoatling · 28/07/2021 20:02
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