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Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 00:41:49

Last week, I was on my phone and had 3 conversations on the go.

One was work related.

I accidentally sent a cheery personal, 'Bye, ta and love you' to the work person.

I didn't notice. Nor did he as we carried on with our work related emails without anything being said.

Until now. He sent email reminding me of his official position and said it inappropriate for me to 'declare I love him'. And from now on we could no longer speak directly to each other. I will need to passed over to other members in his team.

I had no idea what he was talking about. Scrolled through my emails, found the offending little bugger of an email, and apologised, saying it was a mistake, very embarrassed, no discomfort meant etc....made a point of saying I hadn't noticed, and apologised again.

I can't do much else, can I ?

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 00:43:40

*be passed over to other members

Careersytype Fri 14-Feb-20 00:48:17

Clearly it was a mistake.
That person needs to take the stick out of their ass.

wobytide Fri 14-Feb-20 00:48:37

It's a HR issue. He's evidently raised it or been advised. You would be better speaking to your HR rather than him to bring it to a conclusion

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:00:45

I'm freelance, so no HR for me.

I've reacted as appropriately as I can and accepted his curtailments on our contact.

I'm just so embarrassed.

I went through the emails. It stuck out like a sore thumb. It was obviously out of sync with our other emails, both before and after.

It clearly not part of our conversation.
I've accepted it through.
Can't do much else.

Just feel a bit sick about it.

expat101 Fri 14-Feb-20 01:08:37

I would make a formal apology along with the explanation and let it go. I'm wondering if its possible his partner has read the email and assumed the worst? Thus the terse reply....

BlueHarry Fri 14-Feb-20 01:12:09

I'm really surprised he thought that the email was meant for him! Given the fact it was in the middle of work related emails and you clearly don't have that kind of relationship with him, I'd have thought his first guess would be that you'd accidentally emailed the wrong person! I don't think you need to be embarrassed, it just seems so obviously a mistake. His response is really OTT.

Whoops75 Fri 14-Feb-20 01:13:04

Very unprofessional OP

You could meme a lot of trouble for someone with mistakes like that.

BlueHarry Fri 14-Feb-20 01:14:32

Has he said anything since you told him that it was an accident and apologised?

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:20:52

expat101 , I've done that.
I should have taken more time over it, but I was so shocked , I replied ASAP.

I had to phone the office today and it was such a relief when the woman i have had dealings with, picked up.

I acted as normal. So did she.

But I'm still
It was an obvious mistake.
Even if it wasn't obvious, there are other ways to deal with it.

Ive dealt with stalkers , so I know I can't go back to him.

I'm very surprised. We got on well in terms of work.
We have no clue about each other in a personal sense.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:24:12

I've only had his email and I've not contacted him since.
I couldn't say much else, so I didn't want to make things worse.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:26:08

Yes, it was unprofessional. It was a mistake and I was trying to juggle too much.
I accept that. I didn't realise I'd made a mistake till now.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:31:58

He is on different time zone, so I was in middle of personal emails when work stuff came through.

I thought Id deal with it there and then, rather than having it hanging over my head.

Hence the rushed bye, ta and love you conclusion to one of my threads. Or so I thought.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:43:16

@Careersytype - think that was my husband's view too!

I showed him the emails. It took him a bit to cotton on....then he said that it????

Yes, I reply, that's it.

He's a numpty if he thinks that's inappropriate.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:45:20

...was his reply.

It doesn't help though. I feel sick to stomach.

VenusTiger Fri 14-Feb-20 01:48:28

Can you screen capture the other emails, showing time and date and together with the accidental one you sent to him, explain that you were in fact emailing 3 different people simultaneously

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:52:10

I could venus but I won't.

When someone tells you to stay away from them, you listen!

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 01:53:57

It just seems overkill from his part?

PolPotNoodle Fri 14-Feb-20 02:05:22

Might be reaching, but could his partner maybe have seen it and asked him why a colleague is telling him she loves him?

Chage Fri 14-Feb-20 02:10:16

So you haven’t emailed him to apologise, or you have?

You say both things...

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 02:28:24

I apologised immediately, once I saw what he was talking about.

I can't keep apologising.....

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 02:30:45

I have not returned to apologise further, if that makes sense.

HeadachesByTheDozen Fri 14-Feb-20 02:33:16

But did you actually explain to him the mistake? Or did you just apologise and that's it? Because he probably thinks you meant it and that's why you apologised. Not that he actually got the wrong end of the stick.

Rationalcat Fri 14-Feb-20 02:47:24

I explained the mistake. Said I was juggling 3 threads at once and had not noticed a reply to personal friend had gone astray.
He knows the mistake.
But no response.
So , I'm leaving it too.

StarlightLady Fri 14-Feb-20 03:43:40

What an idiot he is!

I once sent far worse than that and we both laughed it off.

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