If sexuality is a choice, something that you can identify into and adopt for all sorts of reasons, you have opened the can of worms to allow individuals to 'become a lesbian' or 'become a gay man'. And unsurprising that heterosexual men will use such notions to their advantage
@NonnyMouse1337 Transwomen/AGPs don't tend to claim they're choosing to be lesbians, they use a 'born this way' narrative.
I don’t think you have to be conventionally same sex attracted or bisexual to enjoy sexual encounters with the same sex. You just have to enjoy sexual encounters.
@borntobequiet I agree, like there are quite a lot of 'men who have sex with men' who still identify as straight, they just like sex and it's easier to find a man who's up for it, by going to certain venues etc.
What is a woman-identified woman?
A Woman-identified-woman as I understand it is one who identifies with the cause of women's liberation and with women as a sex. They do not identify with the oppressor. They put women at the centre of their lives. The phrase seems to have been associated with lesbianism. lgbt.wikia.org/wiki/The_Woman-Identified_Woman It was acknowledging lesbians' importance in the Women's Liberation Movement. I suppose even the statement 'a political lesbian is a woman-identified-woman' is asserting that straight women can be woman-identified, or lesbian.
The problem the Revolutionary Feminists were finding was they could spend a lot of their time doing stuff for women's liberation, going to meetings etc, then they were going home to a man.
It was like their personal life didn't match their political beliefs; they were still with the ruling sexual class in their private life, a fair chunk of their time.
So that's why they decided to not be romantically involved with men anymore, in a revolution against their assigned role and as a sign of their commitment to women's liberation.
I can imagine that some were so into women as a class, that it could spill over into sexual expression.
I wouldn't want to call a political lesbian bisexual, as they have just as much right to their own sexual identity as anyone else. To tell them they're not what they say they are reminds me of when people use to deny bisexual people's description of themselves. I get what you all mean, though.
Sexuality in one respect is maybe a continuum between straight and gay and some women might find it easier to devote themselves to women in their personal lives than others.
The other part of it is the idea that at least some of our sexuality is conditioned. 'Compulsory heterosexuality,' all the social conditioning to be with a man, princes in fairy tales etc etc mean there are a lot of supposed straight women that if they were free of this cultural indoctrination might find they are lesbian.
It's likely, IMHO that there is both a socially conditioned and an innate aspect to our sexuality/romantic identity.
I find it fascinating that someone could take their politics to such an extreme. It's arguably a bit like a cult.
As a bi woman, I tried being lesbian when I was 24 after some bad experiences with men, but it didn't work - it's easy to fall back into being with men, somehow. Almost 20 years on it's probably even harder. I did have a girlfriend last year who was very understanding of my not being very experienced etc.
I would keep an eye out for any sense of 'tying myself in knots' such as I felt when I tried to be a fundamentalist Christian, as I don't think that's healthy.
The other thing I want to give up is BDSM/being a submissive, because for me personally it was too connected with my tendency to like relationships where there's an imbalance of power in other ways. Adding to that in the bedroom can only make it worse.