I am incredibly jaded, but from late 30s ALL the men I know have gone bad. Not rapists and murder etc, but without exception all the men, and it is predominantly white upper middle class men, are indulging in prostitutes, drugs, affairs, selfish behaviour in other ways, not wanting to pay tax, belittling their wives, not doing their share, peacocking
Yeah - this is what I meant re sociopathic / psychopathic male behaviours just being the volume turned up on these kinds of activities. A lower level of abuse of women is not only tolerated, it's often seen as natural and 'just how things are' and certain activities are even protected in law.
I see similar kinds of behaviours across the social classes, though.
The men that make me raise my eyebrows a lot are the ones that talk the talk of being enlightened feminist men. I say 'oh yes'. and wait for the shoe to drop. It usually does and when it does so it is spectacular with copious amounts self-justification, posturing, whining and mansplaining.
The crunch point is often a point where a man is asked to give up his privilege or actually walk the walk in making a decision or choosing a behaviour that will not be to his benefit. A case in point was a man who was offered a career move in his 30s which involved a change of locale to somewhere remote and with diminished opportunity for everyone but him. He had three young daughters and a wife as well as family in his home city. All had hobbies, schools etc. and there was extended family to help care for the children. The wife was just returning to work / her career. Up to this point, he was Mr Feminist - the nice guy who had read the books (and quoted from them) and participated equally in childcare (so he said) and was always so supportive. Then ... 'BANG'. It was almost as if a switch flipped and it was all about him and his career and his wife didn't understand and why couldn't it be about him blah, blah, blah. In the end, the typical happened with the family following Him and His Career.
That's just one example I could cite many more. It's easy to be a 'nice guy' when you are not challenged, but it's amazing how many men claim male power and privilege when not doing so would in some way diminish them, their chances, etc. It's a little like benevolent monarchs. Yes, they do nice things for their subjects, but deep down everyone knows that they still have the power and the privilege and can and will use it if it benefits them and that they have no real intention of giving this up.
