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Thanks for the advice all (sorry for derailing the thread!)
I do have a feeling we have gone with the wrong breed. I'm used to chilled out terriers from childhood. We went with mini poodle as my husband is allergic to most other dogs. I read that they were high energy but I enjoy a hike so thought hiking would be good enough. I guess if she was off lead it would be.
I've been trying strategies I've read about to deal with biting from when we got her. Yelping, standing still, time out, redirection with a toy. We had a trainer in the early days to help us but she did remark how bitey she was even for a puppy.
I do trick training so she knows sit, lie down, paw, high five, stand (hind legs), jump and she can fetch and retrieve in the house. She sits to get her lead clipped on and sits before getting her food. She sometimes sits automatically when she knows it's expected, other times I raise my hand as a signal and she sits. She's smart, that's for sure. Sometimes I scatter food in the grass so she can sniff it out, or I use her snuffle mat. She gets puzzle toys/kongs/yakker chews everyday. We try to play fetch in the garden (I should add we have a large, long garden) but she doesn't bring the ball back. She will only fetch and retrieve from short distances, inside.
She pulls a lot on the lead if we see a person, dog, rabbit or cat. She chases leaves. When I walk her I keep her on a short lead and use a treat to reward her when she walks nicely and looks at me. This is what I use the clicker for. If she walks nicely I click and treat.
I have never let her off the lead because we don't have any secure dog parks where I live. Everywhere can lead to a main road including the beach and forest walk - no proper gates. There are also sheep in the fields, which she has shown interest in and has pushed at the fences to try to get in the fields. But the main reason I don't let her off (but I do let her have max length on the flexi lead) is because she will bite someone or harass their dogs. I have predicted this by how she reacts to people and dogs in our garden and on walks.
She hasn't ran around with any dogs apart from a few times with my parents elderly terrier, who isn't keen on her and has a bad back. We meet dogs on our walks and she has a sniff to say hello but then tries to get up on her back legs to play with them, they don't want to play. People have started giving us a wide berth as they can see she is very over excited.
Myself and my son are highly sensitive. I do my best to stay calm but honestly I'm now quite overwhelmed because I already find a lot of headspace is taken up by our dog and trying to figure out what she needs and also my son, who isn't straightforward either. I don't work (well, I babysit my niece a few days a week but that's all) so there's not much excuse for feeling stressed with what I have. I'm possibly just weak in character or something.
I'm going to get in touch with a local behaviourist to see if she can help. I've ordered a long line.