School used plyers to remove earring

[user1473944236]

Hi I'm new on here but I'd like your opinions on this.
My 14 dd had a small cartilage piercing which her school asked her to remove. As it had been in for about a year it would not unscrew so I advised school I would take her back to the shop to have it removed.
The following day she came home saying the school had manually removed her earring using some plyers borrowed from the tech room. The procedure was painful and caused her ear to bleed.
Am I right in thinking this is wrong on so many levels? Does the school have a right to do this without my knowledge or consent?
Your thought's please..

[CauliflowerSqueeze]

Odd. Something doesn't add up here.

[AdaLovelacesCat]

oh wait - you say she is 14. What a load of old pony.

[AdaLovelacesCat]

anyway, the OP is talking nonsense.
if this piercing had 'been in for a year' then the school would have banned it previously?
Or if she had just come up from Year 6 well that doesn't make sense either because if you had a cartilige piercing at junior school, you would probably also have a visit from social services.
Verdict - must try harder.

[BlossomHillOne]

I'd be grateful to the school for removing it and saving me a trip to the shop. A 14 year old is perfectly capable of giving consent.

Why exactly did you both think the uniform rules didn't apply to her when it was done in the first place?

[KoalaDownUnder]

I'd actually (and I'm not a phone 101 type at all) phone the police about this, otherwise it's likely to be minimised/rug swept by the school.

Omfg.

No wonder it took the police half a day to arrive after someone smashed through a bedroom window and terrified my sleeping flatmate.

Get a grip (and a bloody life).

[AdaLovelacesCat]

under her bridge I suppose

[mineofuselessinformation]

Where is OP?

[BertrandRussell]

Well, if she said no and they held her down and did it, then it's assault. But she's 14. Perfectly capable of giving or withholding consent.

I would want a lot more detail before I went off the deep end about this.......

[SuburbanRhonda]

Really?

[mineofuselessinformation]

Was she offered any options?

[BackwardElephants]

Really?

[ayeokthen]

Fair point FloggingMolly, I just think the school could have used better judgement in dealing with it.

[Floggingmolly]

She didn't say when, ayeok. Why didn't she do it on the day she was actually asked to remove it? I'm assuming this happened on Friday, so she had the entire weekend to sort it...

[AdaLovelacesCat]

I agree. It does seem a bit draconian but she must have consented unless they held her down.

[ayeokthen]

Malody, her mum had already told the school she'd be getting it removed though, so "Mummy and Daddy backing her up" doesn't apply here. Surely it could have been covered with tape before it was removed by a professional?

[Floggingmolly]

It is not assault . Calm down dears...

[Whatthefreakinwhatnow]

Exactly, malody, couldn't agree more.

[MalodyandJim]

I'd go mad! That's assault!

Nooooo that's a whole generation of kids who think they can do as they please as mummy and daddy are backing them up all the way. She/you knew the rules. Unless they pinned her down and pulled it out I'd tell her to suck it up.

[AnguaResurgam]

I think an NT 14 yr old would be deemed competent for this.

So we need OP to return to thread and clarify if her DD consented.

[ayeokthen]

You'd already said you would take her back to the place she had it done to have it removed, it's not like you'd refused to comply. I'd go batshit if someone did this to my child when I'd already said I'd comply.

[Samdensham88]

Id go mad!!!! 😡

[PovertyPain]

I doubt that a 14 would be able to give consent to this type of 'procedure'.

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

Jesus! No matter whether consent was given or not, this is ABH. Take photos and email to the head, governors and the safeguarding team.

[OhNoNotMyBaby]

If she didn't consent, or was coerced, surely it's assault?