He was a very sporty boy until he dislocated his knee for a second time last year and now he refuses point blank to do any sport outside the timetabled school activities.
I don't blame him for being scared of it happening again, I've never seen anyone in that much pain and he received pretty poor hospital care but it worries that he is now opting out of life when it gets hard.
We still have a good relationship and after several long talks he said part of the problem is the shouting from the opposition / coaches - he hates conflict and being shouted at and the thought of going back to it after such a long break is too much for him. (He never complained when he actually was participating apart from when facing one particular team).
He used to have loads of friends but barely ever sees anybody now.
He does well at school - he's in the top classes for everything with little effort and seems happy enough just playing games on his laptop but I keeping seeing wasted months turning into wasted years and his inability to apply himself to anything worries me.
Any words of wisdom?
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14 yo has no interests and opting out of everything
Avago · 13/01/2014 14:49
No idea how much a Sports physio costs but would be willing to pay a fair bit to help him- not sure how different it would be to the paediatric physio he's been seeing though?
She has been great (I think) giving him a programme of exercises using increasing weights and therabands (?) and changing them every couple of weeks (beginning of Aug - Dec) She went into his school and spoke to teachers to allow him special access to the gym (not old enough to normally have the run of the cardio and weights gym) and gave him a program to do there too. She even offered a sports brace which I know is against the norm for teens to try and instil confidence but DS refused it.
I contacted her by email in the evening to let her know his knee had gone again even though he's been discharged and she replied almost immediately with sympathy and advice and and offer to squeeze him in for an appointment , I was amazed, if only his consultant cared even a fraction of that. She really gets that his mind is as screwed up as his knee which I love too.
How do you think a specialist sports physic could help? Im the unsportiest person going and clueless 
She sounds lovely 
to her
I saw a private physio and she gave me a gym program with an associated personal trainer
May be no different but it felt more sporty and might appeal to a boy
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