What to do about dss's 'exciting dreams'.

[Squirrel3]

My stepson has been having 'those' dreams for the past year now.

Completely normal I know but, its left to me to change and wash the bedding and wash his boxers afterwards, (if he was bio mine it wouldn't be so much of a problem but dealing with someone else's son's 'you know what' is a bit revolting!)

Do I ask dp to talk to him to ask him to take his boxers home with him? Do I leave some tissues in his room so that he can 'clean up' a little bit? Do I ask dp to ask him to strip the bed and put the bedding in the washing machine?

Maybe the latter might be too embarrasing for him, but having said that he doesn't seem too embarrassed by it because he just leaves it there for me to sort out, he knows that I wash his bedding and any clothes that get left behind when he goes home. I would have thought that he would try to hide his boxers at least, take them home and sort them out himself.

I just know I can't do it anymore, when I stripped his bed this morning I accidently touched 'it' and I managed to get 'it' all over my hands and I nearly threw up!!!! No matter how many times I have scrubbed my hands I still feel yuk!!!!

Maybe I'm over reacting, my own son dealt with those dreams himself and put his own bedding etc in the washing machine when it needed it (because he was embarassed I suspect.)

Sorry if this is making anybody feel queasy.

[Squirrel3]

A picture of his face that is, lol.

Oh no! I've got tears rolling down my face.

[Squirrel3]

[auntymandy]

lol!
I really should go now Ds shouting at me!!
He just said 'oh my god' because i said I was on pc!!

[auntymandy]

not the teenager the 3 year old!

[DaddyCool]

leave tissues. he can just clean up quickly to reduce the 'impact'. fancy just leaving it! he obviously doesn't embarrass very easily!

i'm not the authority on this though because i never had them! i don't know why to this day but i seriously can't recall ever having them. apparantly not everyone getst them.

[motheroftwoboys]

My DS1 is 15 and I don't think has had any wet dreams so far or he is keeping them VERY well hidden. He is definitely fully developed though!! Find this quite scary!! Do any of you feel the same about having produced this fully functioning male creature. He has really defined muscles now and a 6 pack!! He is still totally not embarassed about wandering around with nothing on.

[Tortington]

i've never had this problem becuase they should wash their own sheets at 15. its not rocket science to use a washing machine - however the hard bit is expecting them to want to wash their sheets when dirty - so i just tell them to strip their beds.

i help make the beds becuse making a bed with two people is infinitley easier.

same with clothes washing - you shouldnt be picking up dirty boxers. be should have a washing basket and wash his stuff - or go comando.

[SleepyJess]

Motheroftwoboys.. I haven't got this fully developed male person yet.. but my 13 year old is on the way. As soon as he gets in, his shirt/thsirt is off.. he just LOVES strolling about the house admiring his torso in mirrors which, although not grown up/'triangular' shaped yet, is quite defined for his age because he does such a lot of swim training. And the hairy arm pits! He just loves to display them all the time!

And girls fancy him! When he was at primary school, the only female to think he was cute was me! As soon as he got to Y7, he suddenly became a 'cool kid' without trying.. think this coincided with him starting to gel his hair up and wanting the front highlighted. It's not just at school tho.. I was walking up the street with him the other week and a load of schoolgirls about his age were coming the other way (not his school - he doesn't go to school in our home town.) They went past giggling and soon as they got past us they were whistling and calling 'wooo sexxxxxxy!' I swung round in suprise amazed that they could be talking about my baby boy!! (They definitely were!) I looked at him and he was just striding confidently up the road with a half-smile on his face! I said 'do you get this at school?' 'Yep!' he said, cool as a cucumber!

I don't know why I was surprised.. he got a home made valentine from someone at school last Feb who delivered the card via their form tutor! It said stuff to the effect of 'I want to see you naked!' and 'I want to get jiggy with you on your bed..'! He had hidden this card in his room. I came across it and needed a stiff drink after reading it! He was not mucn more than 12 and a half then...!! And the bed she wants to get jiggy with him on is a top bunk covered in his soft toys which he still sleeps with (and with his 5 y.old brother in the bottom one!)

I am finding this parenting of a teenage lad something of an education.. and a trial.. and I fear there may be much worse to come!

[Fauve]

SJ, you must have given him good-looking genes .

My ds is only 11, but can anyone give me an idea of how often the bed needs to be stripped for this reason - ie how many wet dreams per week, roughly?

[Squirrel3]

Fauve, I'm sorry I don't know about the day to day, but dss stays every other weekend and one evening during the week and I change his bed after the one evening he stays, then I change the bed again after the whole weekend he stays.

I don't check the bed on the fri morning or sat morning, my thinking is that if he has done it in that time he can clean it up himself or put up with it being there!

[Fauve]

Thanks - so the bed-stripping is a good solution for you, then, isn't it? I think it's rather touching that he trusts you enough to leave his bodily emissions for you to sort out; surely he wouldn't do it if he was intimidated by you. (Unless of course he's flaunting his manliness at you, which is a different - but still rather touching - story, IMO.) It's also touching that you're handling it (the issue, erm, the question) with such sensitivity.