Looking for some advice here, I have a bit of an issue
My DPs eldest DD is at our house this weekend. Last night she told me her mum had a secret that she is not allowed to tell anyone especially dad so she couldn't say anymore (she is 9 and has her dads ability to keep 'secrets' )
She told me that she maybe is moving abroad next year . I don't really want to give details as they are quite specific but I have every reason to believe this is true. In fact it's something I wondered that might happen for a while now. I haven't said anythin to DP yet because I know it would start a shit storm and that DSDs mother would be angry with her for saying anything when I say abroad I mean the other side of the planet!
Anyone who has read my PP knows that the relationship with my DPs ex is less than ideal,however, things have improved drastically over the last week with us all coming to an understanding of sorts (or so I thought) now this has happened. The children are very close to their dad and have regular frequent contact. For all our battles I do think she is a good mum and she loves her kids. Saying that she certainly doesn't care about DP and has gone out of her way to make life difficult for him.
My questions are
- Should I mention this to DP this weekend or leave it for just now? We are very open with each other and it doesn't sit well not telling him.
- Can he actually stop this happening if she decides to go? Looking at it it sounds like he could stop it initially but if she really wants to go he may not be able to stop her
like I said I absolutely believe, for reasons I can't go into here, that This is very much a possibility. Not too sure what to do about it.