DS(7) is autistic and has recently started biting his younger sibling. I think some of it is a way to show dominance and the other part is frustration. It's not just him that he is biting but also his things too, as an example he bit and ate his brother's drawing this morning.
I'm obviously concerned as this is often drawing blood. But what worries me even more is how I hear him talking to his brother, he is saying things like how it's an accident or that he shouldn't tell anyone or that he is in charge and so thats what he gets for thinking otherwise. He also threatens him by just showing his teeth to get him to comply.
I very very rarely leave them alone, just when I go to the loo or grabbing something quickly but usually I get one of them to come with me, so a lot of the time this is happening in front of me and DS(7) locks on and stares at me in the eyes. After he let's go he starts shouting at me.
I know I must need to keep an even closer eye on them and look to see when to intervene but I really am struggling with this. Usually 9/10 times I can spot when DS(7) needs help to regulate but with this I'm really missing it. Like with the art work this morning, they were both beautifully drawing and DS(7) appeared really proud of his piece, talking to us about it but when he asked to see DS(4) artwork he said "this needs to be better" and then bit and ate it! It was a really sudden switch of his behaviour.
I'm unsure what to do, what repercussions should happen here? I've been going straight to DS(4) to help comfor him and telling DS(7) he needs to take himself away. Once DS(4) is happy I then go and talk to DS(7) in plain factual language about how it's no acceptable to do that and whatever he was doing before he cannot do for the rest of the day. But this approach isn't changing anything and if anything it's ramping up so I would really appreciate other tactics as I'm getting it wrong here.
Thank you.
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