My DS is now 12 weeks old. He's always slept really well at night, a few weeks ago we did have a wonderful period of him sleeping 12 hours. He would do a long 8-10 hour sleep and then wake for a feed and would then go back down for a further 2-4 hours. This was short lived, and he does still sleep well, but he now tends to do 6-8 hours and then he will do a further 1 or 2 1 hour sleeps. Overall, not too bad for nighttime. We do feed him to sleep though - my partner gives him an expressed bottle before bed and there is a lot of use of white noise, and I do worry about the long term use of that. But for now I'm just going with it.
Where he isn't so great is daytime naps. There's some days where I cannot get him to nap whatsoever, and on those days he's obviously very cranky by the end of the day and just wants to feed and feed and feed. When he feeds he does often fall asleep at the breast, but will wake within 5 minutes. The ways in which I get him to nap vary - they work some days and not on other days. The times also vary because it can often take a long time to make a nap happen:
- I take him for a stroll in the pram along a busy road, this can take up to 40 minutes of whinging, but eventually the noise of the cars can send him off. He does also have white noise in the pram too on an old phone I have. This is where he will do his longest sleeps, but it does involve me walking with him for over an hour sometimes, and then he will often sleep so deeply that he will stay asleep when I'm home.
- in the car seat, but we live in London and don't drive anywhere, and I have to be in the back with him or he cries.
- I feed him until he's asleep, and then rock him for about 20 minutes and then I can sometimes put him in a cot, but sometimes he wakes straight away.
I read mixed things about napping - some people say to just keep doing anything you can to get them to nap, but others encourage self settling. But I genuinely cannot imagine a time where I'm able to put him into cot drowsy but awake and for him to actually go to sleep.
What is the key to getting them to self settle? Does anyone have any experience of a similar baby who then managed to get a good nap routine, and what did you do? Are there any good books - I know he's too young for controlled crying at this point.