My mother is a very strong character - for example she let her sil miss her husbands ( my mums brother ) last breath because she's never liked sil.
Anyway - mother is 90 ,now in hospital having hip replacement .
Although upset for her ,I was also feeling slightly relieved in that at last the " balance of power " had shifted blush
Dreaming of giving her place a clean ,getting her to cooperate about taking meds GP has prescribed.
I'm just back from hospital and feeling low because mother has seen social worker etc this am and she's told them she can cope ,I'm not to be involved etc
Hard to explain but she does need help ( I know this because I supply loads ) and it would be less stressful if I could have some say in the arrangements for her care.
Feel we ( mum and me ) should be working as a team .As it is she has a very unrealistic attitude about what she can do and while I completely recognise that this = independance ,strength of will ,it's so hard be helping her when its all on her terms .
And yes I know that sounds selfish .
Any advice ,comments ?
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violetqueen · 14/06/2010 17:41
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