Not sure how to put this but how do I get over thinking that hmmm, bodily fluids are eeeuurrgghhhh during sex!

[ilikeyoursleeves]

As I said, not really sure how to put it! Was going to name change but what the hell... I've not always been like this (I don't think) but I don't particularly like all the 'ickiness' of sex! By that I really mean when DH comes- I never go down on him anymore after nearly puking at the taste of it, I don't like the smell of it, the feel of it or the smell or thought of oral sex. (I love receiving it though which probably makes me the world's most selfish lover!). And most often after having sex I have to go and wash my hands, is that normal?!

I feel like I can't let go and I'm worried DH will feel put out at the lack of adventure he's getting! I've had 2 DC's (youngest 6 months) so that might be a factor?

Anyone else like this or am I a freak?! Any hints to help me get back into it all? I enjoy sex once we get going but I'm usually too tired (surprise surprise), maybe things will get better once DS2 sleeps better.

[nickschick]

It was not funny for me I can tell you that!!!

There were 3 ds downstairs wanting me for varying reasons and dh had to keep saying Mummy has a migraine ....god knows what they thought when he ran up and down the stairs with goose fat and the tool box .

Now Im aware of this problem I have to hang over the side of the bed near the window or face the big wardrobe mirror during sex so inevitably I see people I know passing by .....or I end up thinking bloody hell that mirrors dusty ....and ive never bought goose fat with a straight face since .

[northernfriend]

I was with my ex-husband for 25 years and just couldn't do it all the way orally. I did once or twice but gagged on it.I sucked him a lot but never to the end. We always used tissues to mop up after sex.
I have been with my new partner for 2 1/2 years and love doing it! He comes at the back of my tongue and I swallow it straight down. We never mop up after sex, just go to sleep/put undies back on, depending on the time of day/night.
I don't know why it is so different and I don't think I could have done anything to enjoy it with my husband. I tried and tried. Flavoured lube or nutella wouldn't have stopped my not wanting his spunk in my mouth.

[crankytwanky]

Nickshick that's the funniest thing I've heard for ages!

DH's "Vitamin A" isn't chewy exactly. But it leaves a really sticky film inside my mouth. I didn't think we'd be able to conceive, so lumpy is his baby-batter, but it seems to work wonders.
He works in a hot environment, so I think he's always a little dehydrated.

Thinking of it, I always liked a good dose of man-seed better before I had small children.

[sayithowitis]

I love giving DH bjs but I cannot, absolutely cannot, stand the taste or texture of semen. To the point where the last couple of occasions when he came in my mouth, I was physically sick. So, now, he gets a BJ, often, but he knows that I will not go to the full conclusion with it. He is happy with that because if he went the whole hog, I wouldn't do it again. I really don't think there is any 'should' about giving him a Bj. If one party really doesn't want to do it, then they should not feel that they have to. I would hope that usually a compromise could be reached but I wouldn't want to feel that either of us felt we were being forced into doing something we would rather not.
DH is more than happy to go down on me and I love it, but if he decided that he preferred not to see the job through, I would not complain, just be grateful that he does what he does!

[higgle]

For once I agree with you, Mal.
Personally I just have this rather odd feeling of wanting to nurture and love the penis and if I'm really worked up it is hard to decide whether to swallow, have him come inside or all over me, I just love DH to come on my breasts and roll about together all sticky. God, this makes me sound like a porn queen, but I'm just a normal 50ish mum of 2.

[Malificence]

How many of the ladies who don't like semen are happy to kiss their DH when he's been down on them - or do you make them gargle with mouthwash and clean their teeth first?
If you can't let go and enjoy all the aspects of sex, you're really misiing out imho.
And Orm, lots of lube makes good sex into fantastic sex. All that slipping and sliding, yummy.

[Malificence]

I quite like a lick of the lollipop after completion.

Don't quite get why some men like to ejaculate on boobs / faces , they've probably watched too much porn.

We went in for a fair bit of "belly painting" in our youth - god knows how I never got pregnant!

[OrmRenewed]

Nah! The ickiness is not good. Not being all that keen on slime and stickiness in any context why would it be different in the bedroom?

But I find once I get involved it's OK. If I'm too tired or just don't fancy it, the ick factor gets much worse.

[ShowOfHands]

Oh sweet Moses.

This is what I'm talking about.

[DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE]

the mouth is an accepted place of deposit

[InmaculadaConcepcion]

nickschick

[DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE]

hobb - where is this creme egg story?

sungirltan - at head stuck.

i have to say it
for me.....

sex isn't fun unless its messy

one of my favourite parts of the activities is deciding where to deposit the spunk

its the symbol of a job well done to completetion

[nickschick]

Kerry -noooooooooooooooooooooo !!!

[mampam]

I too hate DH coming in my mouth, it tastes vile, so now DH only gets his willy sucked as part of foreplay.

I did once put a Strawberry flavoured condom on him and gave him a full BJ. No complaints from him that he was wearing a condom. Maybe my technique was better as I just went for it knowing that I wouldn't have his come in my mouth at the end of it.

[nickschick]

because i was holding onto the bed end (its a big old brass bed) i lay my head down a bit he thrusted and my head went through the bars .....he insisted on finishing .....and then moaned cos i didnt want goose fat on my head to oil me out of the spot ......he had to dismantle the bars.

[sungirltan]

my dh used to bang on about how he liked messy stuff shag wise - then i got pregnant. i used to say ooh look my boobs are leaking etc and he'd cringe cringe cringe and i'd tease him and say 'but you LOVE gross body stuff!!!' men are fickle

[BitOfFun]

Mal, you're not helping me...

[Malificence]

Yes, flips me over - from on top of him to me on my knees.

[BitOfFun]

[hobbgoblin]

flips you over??!!

[AnyFucker]

welcome to MN !

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