i feel a bit sick and numb at the same time. we have had a dreadful month. i feel like i'm entering a period of depression. we have financial problems and a close family member has just had major surgery. and now i suddenly suspect that dh is having an affair.
he's always been so affectionate and caring towards me. my default setting, however, is rather grumpy and not very tactile. he has a higher sex drive than me and i'm aware that i often push him away when he wants a cuddle.
basically, he's a lovely dad and very caring and 'hands on'. and i'm a grumpy cow with high anxiety levels.
2 nights this week he has been on 2 hour 'walks' till past midnight. last night, when i was in bed waiting for him, the name of one of the mum's in dd2's class flashed into my head. i cant shake off the idea that they're having an affair. she and dh have seen each other twice with the children without me this week. the first was when they bumped into each other at a haloween do. the second might've been planned. not sure. she sent me a text saying how lovely the dds are...thought it was v sweet of her at the time. now am just v suspicious.
when i asked him where he'd been, he said that he'd been walking. just walking. needed to clear his head. he is incredibly stressed, atm, but i dont know if i believe him.
he said that he'd been alone, but said that no one could blame him if he did have an affair, given that hegets so little affection.
i love dh, but he is a better liar than me. just dont know what to believe. in any case, its given me a bit of a wake up call. i want to bemore affectionate but dont know how. we're in such a rut.
i feel that i could cope with an affair better than i could cope with a lie.
long. sorry. needed to vent.
any advice?
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i think that my loyal husband who's been with me 18 years might be having an affair. and i don't blame him
schmu · 04/11/2008 10:39
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