I have been with my partner 5 years. We rent together. Landlord is selling so we have found another house. No problem.
Around the time we signed, I started having dreadful anxiety about moving, committing for another year and about my relationship in general, to the point I'm considering breaking things off.
I have had bouts of anxiety like this before and gotten through it, but this one feels worse, like we actually might/should break up.
We are also due to go on a really special holiday together in a few weeks.
I don't know if it's all anxiety related- caused by moving (new house is more expensive,) or if something within me is telling me the relationship isn't right.
Can anyone relate to this at all?
I feel sick and sad all the time, can't sleep and just feel generally tormented to the point a breakup might be easier.
I have spoken to him about it all. He thinks I'd be foolish to theow the relationship away when nothing has happened-we were fine and looking forward to the year just a few weeks back- also trying to get out of the tenancy etc could be difficult.
Im so worried about everything. Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation.
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snowlady4 · 14/04/2024 20:54
DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/04/2024 20:58
We all feel like that at times - see GP
Re OH - I get it, not just the move but shared AST and what ifs etc
If you feel you are good togther, then go for it and see GP.
I'm not sure how the renting, move and new AST can be manged if one leaves etc - I'm sure othe FM's will be able to help
BTW - have you had spells like that during the previous 5 years?
Anything else new happening in your life?
snowlady4 · 14/04/2024 21:07
Thank you.
What is AST? What is FMS?
Yes I have had these spells before but not as bad.
Nothinh much else happening really.
DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 14/04/2024 20:58
We all feel like that at times - see GP
Re OH - I get it, not just the move but shared AST and what ifs etc
If you feel you are good togther, then go for it and see GP.
I'm not sure how the renting, move and new AST can be manged if one leaves etc - I'm sure othe FM's will be able to help
BTW - have you had spells like that during the previous 5 years?
Anything else new happening in your life?
HopeFloatsAbove · 14/04/2024 21:39
Has anything happened, big or small, within the relationship that makes you anxious?
I get you regarding the new tenancy, its daunting having to uproot and move and also unpack and make the new place feel like home.
Has your work increased? is there anything that is causing the anxiety?
Nicetobenice7 · 15/04/2024 10:16
I completely understand where you are coming from ..in my opinion I think it’s anxiety due to all of your catastrophizing I suffer it to it’s worrying from one thing to another that’s all it is ..GAD I got help through talking therapy from my dr wish I done it years ago …enjoy that super holiday with your partner talk about what’s on your mind and try to come to a solution either by giving your relationship a time scale or getting help with your anxiety or both ..good luck ..I absolutely understand
snowlady4 · 15/04/2024 13:50
That is so kind of you.. thank you.
It's so hard to see straight when you're in the middle of it all isn't it.
It's sad because I've put a downer on the house and the move and everything now.. but even if I wanted to hide it, I couldn't!
I think a timescale and help with the anxiety are going to be helpful.
It's also helpful to hear I'm not the only one who goes through this. It can be very lonely and isolating indeed.
And of course anxiety makes us want to rush things and have instant solutions.
Nicetobenice7 · 15/04/2024 10:16
I completely understand where you are coming from ..in my opinion I think it’s anxiety due to all of your catastrophizing I suffer it to it’s worrying from one thing to another that’s all it is ..GAD I got help through talking therapy from my dr wish I done it years ago …enjoy that super holiday with your partner talk about what’s on your mind and try to come to a solution either by giving your relationship a time scale or getting help with your anxiety or both ..good luck ..I absolutely understand
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snowlady4 · 15/04/2024 06:30
@Watchkeys yes he's incredibly kind and respectful tbh. It's difficult for people to understand anxiety if they've never had it or experienced it. He's not dismissive of my feelings, its more from his point of view that nothing has happened, we get on, we have a nice life, he can't understand why I might want to chuck the relationship away.
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