Could I have your thoughts and advice please
My 18 year old daughter has returned from uni for Christmas - she went to Newcastle boxing day to see her boyfriend and was supposed to return a week laterfor my father's 80th birthday but brought him back with her and they have been staying ever since. I said it was ok but I am really regretting this now. We live in a 2 bed tiny terrace - open plan living room so there is no where to go other than my bedroom if they are watching a movie. They have stayed in bed until 1pm/2pm. I went out yesterday for a drive and a coffee as I feel so uncomfortable in my home - sent her a text to say I would be home in 5 minutes - returned and he was lying on my sofa with no top on and had obviously been at it whilst I was out. I feel my daughter has no respect for my home and now I have opened the door of opportunity to them for the future. I did not want to look like a prude as they are in a relationship and have no where else to stay.
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HappFridays · 02/01/2024 13:02
HappFridays · 02/01/2024 13:39
I am confused by my emotions and reactions. I know they are in a sexual relationship and have no other options but to stay here due to the distance - he lives in Newcastle - we live in Nottingham. Perhaps if the house was bigger and not so claustrophobic it would be more tolerable. I struggle for money so had not planned on having a house guest to cook for. It was a surprise and to see him on the sofa without his top on - I wouldn't want my daughter walking in and my partner to be topless on the sofa. The old saying 'not under my roof' comes to mind. Her father has made it clear they would have to sleep in separate rooms but he lives in a 5 bedroom house and has the luxury of space
Mrsjayy · 02/01/2024 13:41
i just wouldnt allow him.to stay again its your house and they are abusing it.
OpalOrchid · 02/01/2024 13:47
I'm not sure how they are abusing the house?
Mrsjayy · 02/01/2024 13:41
i just wouldnt allow him.to stay again its your house and they are abusing it.
OpalOrchid · 02/01/2024 13:58
But surely as your children grow up it's normal and natural for them to want their partners to stay over. It is their home too. And no I'm not the same with my home and private spaces. I understand my adult children will have relationships.
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