He’s great when we are actually on holiday. But…I’m absolutely sick and tired of trying to get him to go. Last time we went away, it was for two nights and took quite literally months of me suggesting things, hun barely engaging etc.
So I ended up planning more stuff with friends which I enjoy.
I’m five months pregnant and really want a week away abroad. I can’t face trying to get DP to go, I would rather not have the hassle. Would you go alone? I feel a bit worried being pregnant but also sad about not going anywhere. Friends are unable to go. It’s not a financial issue before anyone asks, he’s a v high earner.
So fed up :(
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DP won’t go on holiday. Can anyone relate/would you do this?
Beellabrella · 25/05/2022 14:58
prohodilka · 25/05/2022 15:27
I'm a man in a relationship and I don't like going on holidays with my partner either. Her idea of a holiday is to visit major landmarks and tourist attractions and to eat out a lot. My idea of a holiday is to veer off the trodden path and do everything on a budget. My idea of eating out being go into the nearest Lidl (they're everywhere) and grab a snack and eat it outside. With my method I can get to go to much longer holidays for the same money, and to cover a much wider territory and see the suburbs of the city I'm visiting up close. Even if I go alone, staying in hostels is much cheaper than staying in hotels, I get more nights for my money, and I get to interact with other guests much better. With her method is just anyone's idea of foreign city holiday with lots of pictures taken and posts on Facebook.
Ask yourself if his idea of a holiday is different than yours. Where does he go and what does he do when he's holidaying alone or with friends. If that isn't a match to yours then that's the answer. Otherwise I don't know.
Paprikapommes · 25/05/2022 16:24
Yes, married to a poorly organised workaholic here too.
We booked one recently but it took me reaching the point of breakdown to do so. We last travelled in 2019 and he views anything beyond a 4 night break as our indulgence. It's exhausting.
I'd been asking to book since October, I'd gotten so desperate that when asked what I wanted to do for my birthday earlier this year I said book a holiday. Tragic really.
I love to travel and it feels miserable having to beg your OH to spend time in your company, especially as I know he'll enjoy it once we're there. He also shirks all planning responsibility too, so everything falls to me and really sucks the joy out of it.
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