Absent fathers

[Mummybiscuitx]

Hi all. Those of you who have children and are separated from their fathers.. If they've now become absent, how long have they been absent for and have they ever suddenly reappeared into your children's lives again? It's been three months since my ex saw our DD, having left because of DV.. He will only be able to see her through the courts system now but part of me thinks he's not going to bother as he's realised the length of time in which it takes and the expense.

[cookiemonster5]

Over 11 years in my case. I left him after years of abuse and he never bothered. Like just if the rest of these useless scum he tells people I don't let him see them. That's if he admits they are his. He likes to pretend I cheated and they aren't his.

[NellyTimes]

My exh was emotionally and financially abusive, I finally plucked up the courage to leave him 9 years ago and he then spent 8 months trying to bully me into going back. When he finally realised I wasn't going to, he told me we are all dead to him and haven't seen him since. The kids are 11 and 12 now and are just fabulous children and I don't believe they would have flourished in a home with him in it. He pays me some money every month, but that is the extent of his fathering.

[dublingirl66]

Love to all of the lovely families who have been through this hell just shocking

And we get sucked in so bad and it's so hard to step out !!

[Justnoisewhitenoise]

So true. I'm shocked I've had this many replies but really and truly.. Takes a real dad to bring up a child.. Any fool can have a baby.
Disgusted they choose to be this way

[Alwaysinpain]

[quote Justnoisewhitenoise]@Alwaysinpain another one that clearly doesnt deserve his child :( I just don't get it.. I look at my daughter and think how can he be like this..i just feel sad for her that's all x[/quote]
Same 💔 x