I was in a relationship with my emotionally abusive ex (unwillingly) until February. In my head, I was fully checked out of the relationship in November, but I was scared of leaving as he threatened suicide regularly. Our son was stillborn in August and I naively hoped it would work out after what we'd been through despite his behaviour. On one occasion I had to wrestle a knife from him as he tried to stab himself in the neck in front of me. That was the first time I'd called the police and I called them a further 5 times before I left.
Not long after I left him I joined some OLD apps hoping to get a bit of confidence back. Feelings wise I had nothing to get over and it might sound silly but I didn't think I'd meet anyone I'd really like for a while. Except I did/have.
In March I started seeing a really great guy and we're now in a budding relationship. He knows about my past relationship and the issues with it, how long ago etc and has been very kind and patient with me. We're taking it easy and just enjoying spending time together and it's been great so far.
Am I allowed to move on like this? I feel like I need permission to be happy, life hasn't been kind to me for a long time...
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sosks · 20/04/2018 19:26
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