I think I need to leave my husband, but I don't know where to start.
What's happening is he forces me into doing what he says, I am not allowed an opinion on pretty much anything. I have to do what he wants.
At the moment, he has his friends to stay in our tiny house. They stay up all night and leave the bathroom covered in their mess. Which he says I should clean up, and it's not a 'big deal' but he won't clean it. I was cleaning urine up at 3am last night.
If I try to talk about it, he tells me I'm 'a joke', and I should 'stop wasting his time'. I've got asd and don't want house guests at all. These have been here for for ten days when he promised five at most. They cost a fortune and eat all our food.
He undermines my confidence and constantly reminds me of what a 'nasty person' I am. He refuses to clean. He blames everything on me. If I object, he says I will be locked out and he will keep my 13 month old baby ( who is my whole world). (Can he do this??)
This is the emotional/psychological part but he also does financial things. He went bankrupt because he spends stupidly and never keeps an eye on things. He forced me to get a Debt Relief order, because he took out loans in my name and made me book holidays on my credit card, this was partly my fault because I allowed it for a peaceful life but I did try to stop him and say we couldn't afford it.
My credit was great, but now it's ruined. I have no family support and no savings - he emptied the account going out with friends and buying things we can't afford.
Working with ASD and a small child is virtually impossible for me now. I do get DLA but it's not enough to live on. We rent our house, in his name. So, if this was you, how would you leave? Would you try? Am I to blame and just making a fuss over nothing? I would really appreciate some help with this. Thank you.
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ASD and young baby - how can I leave?
xochitl · 27/10/2017 22:02
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