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DH Meeting Work Colleague for Lunch on Day Off - and not mentioning to me..

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Blueflowers2011 · 10/01/2017 09:09

So DH is quite an outgoing man, personable, talks to anyone and everyone and enjoys socialising etc.

I saw a message coming in on his phone from an ex work colleague of his to meet up. He suggested when the kids are both at school/nursery and on his next day off next week. (he gets days off in the week as works wkds).

Her last sentence was to say could they go somewhere with some really nice food.

So... what do i do here...

Confront him before next week and admit I snooped on his phone (which could in turn make him very over protective of it in the future)

See if he says anything by next week - if he still doesn't either a) wait and see if my husband is really a liar in life and hides things from me or b) follow him like a mad woman to where they will be meeting (to be arranged) and see what this is all about.

As far as I know about this woman, he always talked about her but just as a work colleague.

I would NOT mind if he told me about it beforehand. It's the fact that he is hiding it that is bothering me so much.

What should I do? Looking for your help as usual ladies please.

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MummysMaison · 10/01/2017 19:11

If he doesn't mention it can you not wait outside said restaurant and 'bump into them' when they leave? I'd like to hear an explanation for that!

I wouldn't be happy with this at all. It's not the going for lunch with a woman, it's the not telling you that's a big issue.

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Ellapaella · 10/01/2017 19:19

If you feel uncomfortable about it there's probably a good reason for that. 'Jealous' people are usually jealous for a reason - they have been treated badly in the past or let down before. If you had 100% trust in him then it wouldn't bother you and he no doubt would have mentioned it. I know my DH would tell me if he was meeting up with a female friend as it would just be weird not to, especially if it was a female friend I'd never met - might be different if it was someone I also knew well. it's just a respect thing in my opinion and I would also tell him. In fact I would tell him if I went out with any friend for lunch as it's not something I do very often and it would be something I'd be looking forward to so would definitely tell him about it.