I'm spending hours of every day contemplating whether or not to put an end to my marriage, which is just crap. Not abusive, not destructive - just crap. We have been together 20 years, married 14, 3 kids (5, 8, 11) and he's 14 years older than me. I don't fancy him anymore in the slightest and we've had sex once in the last year. I could put up with that. But these days everything he does annoys me. Every time he speaks I cringe and I avoid social situations that involve both of us as his social skills are dire (always says the wrong thing to people, talks at them till they glaze over, makes inappropriate comments). He has no money and no job (talks the talk about running his own business but hasn't made any money in over a decade) so I've always been the breadwinner. I just can't be arsed with that anymore and would love for him to get a job as I'm having a really stressful time with work, but having not worked for so long he's practically unemployable. He's a decent enough dad - no awards, but gets on with it, and I don't want to screw up the kids' lives but I'm just so so miserable every day I don't know what to do. Please don't reply just to have a go at me, I know I haven't got it bad compared to so many but I feel totally stuck.
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overthehillandroundthemountain ·
20/09/2016 17:26
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