hi all, while I've been a reader for years on mumsnet this is the first time I've joined. I'm wriitng this because i need some real advice from other mums.
DH is 4 years older than me. He has been disinterested in me for years sexually, though we have recently tried to rekindle things a bit. Have 1 beautiful son.
I am in a bit of shock at the moment, to find multiple entries for 2 adult websites (Adultwork and Todd and Clare) on his Santander bank account statement from January, the online one which I thought he rarely uses. This was discovered NOT by snooping, but because of doing taxes for our small business and I accidentally opened some PDF santander downloads which were in an accounting file I thought I'd missed on our shared computer. Yes, our SHARED machine, I feel like such a mug.
So, the question is... well, there are many questions, but how do i find out what part of the Adultwork site has he been using his card on? Is there anyway to find out? There's no contact number on Adultwork, it's based by the looks of things in Malta. How convenient.
It looks like AW site is basically a prostitute's site.... I am sitting here typing this in tears and feeeling physically sick.
Regarding the other site, the 4 entries on his Santander account for the Todd & Clare one are all from America. that is an American-based site, most of the women are not UK based by the looks of things so that could be Skype webcamming or phone sex, but the Adultwork /AW one is what has rocked me... I heard about it along time ago, and to be confronted with the possibility he has actually done this to us....wow.
Haven't confronted him with it yet.... honestly have no words for this.
Have told my sister. Am staying at hers. Honestly, I don't know what I am going to do. IF AW was just webcamming like I'm reading on the Todd and Clare one, maybe I would feel less sick. But, we checked this morning and they are all local escorts on Adultwork.
The AW entry on the bank statement doesn't tell me which part of the Adultwork site he has been using. The site is split into multiple sections, there are parts for webcamming, parts for phone sex, escorting... the list goes on and on...
DEVASTATED.
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Ellie1977 · 25/06/2016 10:20
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