Would you tell her?

[Kimberley00001]

Please see the earlier thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2592858-To-tell-his-gf

[TheNaze73]

I don't think he'll have given you a thought over all this. He's so not bothered. Don't let that, continue you to torture you. That's all these threads look like. Just reads as needy drama queen. Move on & put your energies into something positive rather than banging on about the past. You deserve better

[MistressDeeCee]

I haven't clicked on the link but I remember you and your tedious banging on and on about this man. Aren't you the one who is good looking, but his current and all his previous girlfriends "look like Miranda off the tv?"

With your stunningly good looking self in comparison to other women I can't begin to understand why on earth this man dumped you, its all about looks after all, even that alone should have bound him to your side

Anyway you've been dumped so you've no choice but to accept it have you. Life goes on

[DraenorQueen]

I won't be posting about him any more.
Thank fuck.

[Hissy]

Typical ow mentality... Craving the drama?

Take up BASE jumping or something.

Who cares about him? He's a scumbag.

Who cares about her? She is a cheat?

And you... You apparently were happy enough to go along with t while it suited.

Move on.

[Sofiathefirst2016]

Too me it seems as if you're scorned. If he'd had agreed to continue seeing you , you wouldn't have this grudge.

[goddessofsmallthings]

lunar has it. You seem to think you have the power to make or break his relationship but, even though he allegedly shagged you more than once, my money's on him being able to convince his dp that you were nothing more than an easy lay who came on strong and led him to have a drunken moment of weakness, after which you effectively blackmailed him into continuing to see you by threatening to tell her.

Imo you should tell her as she deserves to know what a scumbag he is. Of course you won't come out of it well, but maybe it will teach you not to mess with another woman's man.

As for their relationship has no solid foundation, this is pure speculation on your part of the kind which is designed to make you feel smug and superior when in fact you should be feeling nothing except abject disgust with yourself.

[gamerchick]

Let it go OP. I would hazard a guess you've fried all of your friends heads with this. You've wasted a long time obsessing over this person. Let him go for your own sanity. The picture of satisfaction you have built up in your head won't be the reality.

[TealLove]

You are torturing yourself over the past.

[Effendi]

Thank fuck for that.

[Kimberley00001]

I don't think I need to tell her tbh, the damage is done their relationship has no solid foundation. I'm not a silly little girl, but I was with this man. I won't be posting about him any more.

[haveacupoftea]

I won't go into detail about what I think of sad little girls like you who deliberately try to break up relationship. But you can rest assured that the girlfriend knows her other half isn't a saint, and you're no threat to her after your pathetic behaviour.

Now grow up and move on.

[Effendi]

What a bizarre, attention seeking thread.

[RidersOnTheStorm]

Nobody cares, OP.

[Kimberley00001]

It wasn't once it was quite a few times.

[lunar1]

Bloody hell, you slept with him once over a year ago. I think you need to move on!

[DonkeyOaty]

you've been banging on about this bloke for over a year now

Seriously get yourself sorted, yeah?

[curren]

I believe the 'incriminating evidence' could land you in a legal grey area.

I think lunar has it. In your head you think you hold the power to devastate him and split them up and blaze of glory. You like playing over and discussing it. It makes you feel better.

But to be honest I think it's got to the point where you need some actual help to move past this.

[Belikethat]

Why don't you make a final decision and stick with it? You must be going through agonies going over it again and again. I would leave it personally and get off Facebook. If you did tell her, you will have all the drama when/if she replies. You are torturing yourself.

[VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon]

Why did you start a new thread instead of posting on your other one?

[Kimberley00001]

No his not a criminal ! I could say personal things that would reveal what he's done

[RidersOnTheStorm]

And don't start any more threads about it. It's tedious and attention seeking.

[Kimberley00001]

She was on his Facebook a few months ago as I was before they were together( his profile stated single ) so I saw the posts she wrote on. I only said his kids seem to like her as they like her pics, this all I have to go on in that respect. I have said I've been silly I've admitted that.

[Costacoffeeplease]

So what?

To be honest I don't think mumsnet is the right place for you, I think you need some real life help

[lunar1]

What will it take for you to make up your mind?

You seem to be enjoying the position you have created in your mind. That you have some kind of power and importance between them. I'd say tell now, as you undoubtedly will at some point. I think you are just delaying to make it as dramatic as possible.

[DonkeyOaty]

So he's a criminal as well? Take your info to the Police then.