First EVER date tomorrow night... And it's via Tinder!

[honeyJD]

I matched with a guy on Tinder a week ago - he seems normal, decent and made me laugh in his first message which was lovely.
We've arranged to meet tomorrow evening, for a drink in a bar in town. This is my first ever proper date - I'm 29 and have had two long term relationships both met via work, other relationships have bloomed from friendship. I've never been on a date with a "stranger" before and never anything via OLD!
So I am understandably crapping myself about tomorrow night. We haven't spoken on the phone and swapped numbers or anything, it's all been via Tinder and very relaxed.
I just don't know what to DO on a date. I know to just be myself but I'm going to be so nervous. I'll be driving so can only have one spritzer at most, wish I could have a small drink beforehand just to calm my nerves! I've planned my outfit (jeans, nice top, heels).

Any tips or advice please people?!

[donajimena]

Ooh. No update. Hopefully its a good sign. Whilst we await I'll add to the voices that say Tinder has evolved. I tried it and I wouldn't have countenanced a quick shag..or a long one for that matter. It said as much in my opening gambit

[honeyJD]

I'm home. It was good and a lovely evening but just not my type. Sounds shallow but he was shorter than me in my heels (I'm about 5"9 in them) also I mentioned what me and my DS are up to at the weekend and he said "oh so you have a son? How old is he?"
Umm it's in my very short bio!

(By the way my taxi arrived early. So I was in the bar for 7:45, popped to the loo then sat in the window and told him where I'd be)

[donajimena]

Well done for getting back on the horse honey keep going (if you want to of course) I met my now partner on my second internet date, my best friend her first and another close friend it was nearer to twenty.

[honeyJD]

Yep I'm going to keep going, now I know what to expect on dates I'll be happy to do another!

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

Well done! The first date was terrifying but they get easier!
I usually look for hints that they have read my bio before getting into too much conversation. A think a lot of men people do is swipe right without looking at bios or further pics so they won't always have taken anything in other than 'she looks hot' so good to check it out. The guy I'm currently dating sent a first message saying something like 'I liked your profile' so I slightly snottily asked what specifically and he passed the test

[pocketsaviour]

Obsidian I'll take your word for it that Tinder's evolved - I don't use it myself but I know a lot of guys who use it and seem to primarily see it as a source of booty calls, but perhaps they're a small subset!

Glad it went okay OP and I think all dates are learning experiences that will help you narrow down your pool of prospective dates in future :)

[VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon]

They are a subset. Of course there are people looking for hook ups but they tend to be open in their bios so I just swipe past.

[Binders1]

Been lurking, glad you had a nice time and I do think it takes courage - so good for you. I think it goes without saying there can be a fair few 'frogs' with OLD but I know quite a few people who are in relationships from it.

My sister went on a date a couple of weeks ago from 'POF' (first date she was tempted after ages looking at OLD). She said he seemed nice'ish to begin with, nice looking. Did talk a LOT about himself and asked her nothing. He had also come via train and kept referring to seeing her house, cooking breakfast. When he realised there was not a chance, he said he might catch an earlier train home (which still meant there was 2 hours to go ) - she walked him towards the station (being unfamiliar with the town, he wasn't aware that's where they were heading). He was a little upset/offended when he realised and she said 'Think you should go home now'. (Well she did walk him!).

[HotNatured]

You know Tinder tends to be for one-nighters, right?

Just to reiterate what others have said, this is not true. I have been on a lot of Tinder dates, all of them were seeking a relationship, most of them I didn't fancy, a couple I did, we went on to have a relationship and in the past month I have met the most amazing man, he's very much wanting a relationship and we feel v lucky that Tinder exists as we would not have met each other without it. My work colleague has been in a serious Tinder relationship for four months, another of my friends is going to propose to a woman he met on Tinder a year ago, I could go on ad nauseum.

[Angieyy1]

I have been to a tinder wedding in Ireland ! They Re so in love it was beautiful to see !