As the title suggests, my wife and I seem to have a set of the above on both sides.
Mine: alcoholic father and long suffering mother. Keen to please but utterly fussy and annoying with it. Do things because they think they should and not because it comes naturally or necessarily want to. Father breaks his neck to get to the pub on any visit making us feel rushed and uneasy. Have a habit of arguing at family occasions making others feel uneasy. Easily led by friends and colleagues. Always offering advice based on what so and so said at work etc. Pushy with baby names. Drop in unexpectedly. Repeat gossipy conversations frequently. Generally annoying.
Wife's: workaholic dad, stay at home, controlling and partially agarophobic MIL with a spoilt and grabby attitude. Five children so time is split unevenly oiling the issues of whichever sibling needs them at the time which is never us. Unsupportive emotionally, financially or in any other way despite second granddaughter being only weeks away. Never offer to pay despite picking up the bill for more pushy siblings. Does not cook, or eat regular food meaning we can't go out with them to restaurants. Huge anxieties about regular things such as driving in to town and parking the car. Allow rude and ignorant behaviour from wife's siblings despite them all being 20+ years old. Non commital with everything from days out to visiting. All on their terms. Do not lift a finger when they visit even after first DS was born (they left leaving dirty plates and cups strewn all over after visiting us for the first time)
There isn't an easy solution as we rely on both for child care 3 days a week but my goodness, it's hard interacting with these people we call parents.
Not sure why - just needed to post and vent.
Any similar stories or advice?
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KramerVSKramer · 25/01/2016 00:36
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