MIL has a big birthday coming up. She will 100% want a party and I think would be really disappointed if she didn't get a surprise one.
It's not for a while yet but in the interests of making sure it gets done, I mentioned to her twin's daughter today who said that her mum didn't want a party and had booked for her and her family to go away over the birthday weekend.
Now without getting into the ins and outs, MIL's family are very 'close' (in the sense that you have to include everyone in everything or else you are not behaving acceptably), so it's firstly a bit weird that her twin has decided to do something without her on the actual birthday, and also that by declaring that she doesn't want a party, is making it akward for us to do one for MIL as it will sort of be her birthday party, even if it isn't, by default. They have a big family who would obviously all be there and mostly the same friends.
How do we play this? Do we convince twin's DH and kids to throw a joint party with us anyway, or speak to twin directly to let her know that we are doing it to make sure she knows why it's not her party too? That just seems weird though, not to mention probably having to field calls from everyone who got an invite, asking why it only had MIL's name on the invite and not twin.
I also think that MIL will be upset that twin has made plans for the actual day that don't involve her, but that's another issue for another time!
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BasinHaircut · 29/11/2015 19:09
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