Background:ExH finally moved out in May after very difficult few years of no communication pa behaviour.
Mortgage & all bills except council tax he pays dd. Since he moved I've paid him the mortgage amount each month. He lives in a 1 bed flat 15 miles away.
So- He comes to see the kids x2 evenings a week and one weekend day. he lets himself in/makes coffee/puts his feet up/falls asleep/expects to be fed/does nothing in particular with the kids. This morning for instance he turns up, makes a coffee, does a dump, suggests a movie day with the kids All while I'm here as 'default parent'. I know lots of you hate that phrase but it's spot on for this situation. I don't want to go out I have mountains of ironing etc to do & im taking the kids out & swimming tomorrow.
Also - I just don't want to spend time with him, he's irritating, do I have to for the kids sake? Can I insist he gives the key back, do I have any rights about this?
He is very passive aggressive & makes me feel awful & like a bitch if I complain about this. I just joked is there no loo roll at yours & he stomped off looking like a kicked puppy now I'm going to feel bad & knot in my stomach all day. I can't sleep the night before he's coming. Do I have a right to a private space?
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ExH how do I deal with this without causing ww3?
Katiekatiekatiekay · 21/11/2015 11:01
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