If you were to build a good husband...

[CalleighDoodle]

If you were able to build a 'good husband' what qualities would you include?

Basically ive been wondering what it is that makes a good husband.

[rockinrollers]

ive recently told my guy if i could build a boyfriend i would build him! there is nothing i would change honestly! if i could have written the last 4 months of my life i would have done things no differently!

[Sallystyle]

DH fits my ideal husband.. which is handy

Kind
loving
gentle
assertive when needed
generous
nature lover
good with children
animal lover
able to talk about feelings
likes physical affection
clever
interesting
respectful
honest
loyal
deep

huge arms
tall
broad shoulders
toned legs
masculine
strong

[BillyDaveysDaughter]

My list would be weird, I adore the bones of my DH but he kinda breaks the mould.

If you love him enough, the not so great traits are just part of him and what you signed up for - just as he will put up with your less than desirable qualities. All the good stuff is a bonus.

Personally, my husband has ruined me by being ridiculously good in bed. I never understood what all the fuss was about until I met him.

[PickledinGin]

Empathetic
Funny
Intelligent
Helps with housework can use the microwave in an emergency
Able to hold his own with a moody argumentative cow
Supportive
Trustworthy
Objective
Cute, snugly and squidgy like a big handsome furry teddy bear

[FolkGirl]

TTWK are you saying that no man has integrity or is honest? Really? Not one?

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

Ruth I was actually describing my new partner

I think you place emphasis based on life experience as you move in time.

But big hands uff they've always held appeal.

[Anniegetyourgun]

Ah, had I only had such a list 33 years ago, along with the resolution to stick to it. XH wouldn't have made it to Date 1. Mind you he did manage to fake some of the qualities.

[WhatALoadOfOldBollocks]

Personality
*Has a long fuse
*Patient and kind, but not a doormat
*Not a Disney Dad
*No addictions or obsessions
*A good communicator, so he can tell me if there's something wrong, and is an active listener if I'm telling him something's wrong.
*Appreciates me and what I do
*Doesn't consider doing housework as helping me.
*Likes to please me sexually
*Never says anything hurtfull, especially followed by "I was only joking".
*Eats healthily most of the time
*Considers exercise important

Physically. Yes I'm sexually very visually stimulated to it's important to me...
*Idris Elba sums it up...over 5'10" tall, dark skin and hair, athletic, nice face...but Jai Courtney's lovely too
*Average sized penis...big looks great but can be a problem practically.
*An interest in taking care of his appearance but not to the point of vanity or obsession.

[TTWK]

Honesty, integrity,

Yes, if he can fake those two he'll be a hit with the ladies.

[Joysmum]

Kind, honest, empathetic, good communicator, fairly intelligent.

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

I honestly think DH is a good husband. A great dad. I genuinely would reconstruct another one of him with minor tweaks:-
Version 2.0 would put his stuff away always rather than leaving it til he has a Big Tidy
2.0 would clean the bathroom
2.0 wpuld drive

Thats it!

[TheBookofRuth]

WallyBanters basically described my DH.

You can't have him Wally!

[CalleighDoodle]

FolkGirl to feel safe and loved is definitely in my list too.

[CalleighDoodle]

Sorry for delay! Went out last night and battery died. Some great points. It was a question i asked (and please note i said a GOOD husband, not a perfect one) because i read and hear so many women say 'he is a good husband....' when describing a man who is clearly not. There have been a couple of these threads recently and a friend in rl. I guess when in a bad relationship the bad becomes the norm so it is difficult to see.

To me the qualities i would list are a list of things my estranged husband is not but that is because the things about him that made our marriage very difficult i wouldnt want again.

But height is near the top. Tinder is full of men below my height which is no good for me.

[cappy123]

Follows Jesus. No 1 for me.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

Well that's me, ACIM.

Are we allowed to talk about current affairs from the side of our mouth during the suck job?

[AICM]

Spudulike here's my list for a perfect wife:
Big tits
Good cook
Gives great bjs

[FolkGirl]

Oh and creative with a positive social attitude. Someone who is more concerned with making a difference than making loads of money.

That's the man I want.

[FolkGirl]

Gentle but strong
Kind
Understanding
Intelligent
Good humour
Bookish
Faithful
Honest
Romantic

Yes to all of these.

Plus (if I'm being picky) dark curly hair, nice eyes/smile, 5'6 - 5'11, and a little chunky. Not fat. Just someone who could hold me and make me feel safe and loved.

If anyone knows this man, point him in my direction. Please...

[FatSwan]

I think I've got mine. He's kind, funny, thoughtful, loving toward his family and animals, a nurturing father, hardworking... just too hardworking. He's hardly home due to work commitments.

I think I'd like more than one

[ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]

umm, sorry y'all, but I have him already

(could do with a few stones weight loss, for health's sake, but so could I )

[spudlike1]

Perfect wife ? Any suggestions?

[ouryve]

DH has a faint not so exotic Peterlee accent. I can't object to him having a bit play (when I'm in the mood) :o

[BertieBotts]

Oh FGS, nobody is being sexist, don't be dim. This is a female dominated site and the majority of posters are heterosexual. Hence, husband. Some parts of the post are listing perfectly gender neutral values which would be great in a husband, wife, friend, general human. Then some are tongue in cheek describing their personal "perfect man". I'm pretty sure that doesn't mean they believe that every man without those qualities ought to be rounded up and shot

[sensiblesometimes]

Yes! Good cook essential