ofred I agree I was rude to the OP a number of posts back and I came back to apologise, she hadn't taken offence, had posted again and I tried to post something more relevant to how she was feeling in a way that suggested one does have to compromise. And one does and often it isn't at the expense of others but for the benefit of others. DH has had to compromise - he is tidy; I am not. He would happily holiday in England in the summer; the rest of us would not.
He works 60 hours a week - even now because he is a workaholic; I work about 40 and therefore I am at home to do more domestic stuff than he is Also, I actually do like food shopping, I adore cooking, I like having a well presented - if not tidy house, and I like doing the school stuff including over the years the dreaded gate and the PTA. I went back to work when my DC were 5 and 8, part-time at first, and when the opportunity arose it was DH who encouraged me and supported me to take professional quals and then a part-time MBA. It as DH who took the DC out or away for weekends when I had assignments to focus on. I call that pretty equal.
You, however, have been unspeakably rude. Perhaps it is your nature. I suspect, however, there is far more wrong with your own life than there is with mine and perhaps you should focus on that rather than resorting to offensive argument and downright nastiness.
Just off to take DH a cup of tea in bed and might jump in with him for a cuddle and a read - as us contented oldies sometimes do.