Is this normal ?

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

For him to tell me he's going to smother me ..
I do know it's not normal in a way but do people put up with it because it's 'their' normal and that's just how my life is?
Some people wil have non of this going on for them so to them it's a big NO that's wrong, others maybe it happens , there told he's going to kill them?
I have no idea if I'm making any sense ?

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

been sat here not knowing what to wright

It's him again I'm a bit scared and frightened
I just carnt word it

[Mypopcornface]

Why don't you volunteer somewhere? Maybe you can volunteer to help some women who has been through the same you have?

[Mypopcornface]

Hi op sorry I wasn't online. You need to find a hobby, a tv series, a book, a friend, something to keep you occupied when you have thoughts about calling that man. Is there another charity you can turn to, one where people don't know your case already? Why don't you start to see a therapist or counsellor?

[garlicnutty]

It doesn't matter, sweetheart. They know how hard it can be. Keep ringing.

Did they give you a local number to call, as well? How about people from the Freedom Programme?

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

Thanks
I think their probably sick of me like everyone else, I'm that woman that they all hide when the phone rings and they know it's me.

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

Someone please tell me how to get through this I'm desperate what's wrong with me I have no idea I want some help.
I'm so upset now
It's so up and down

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

Hi popcorn I'm going good I feel stronger, I'm confused still but I'm focused on my dc and what I need to do x

[Mypopcornface]

How are you feeling today? Hope you have a marvellous busy day

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

Thankyou popcorn x

[Mypopcornface]

Keep strong

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

I'm waiting to hear garlic they are going to call me back.

[garlicnutty]

You're doing brilliantly :)

Well done on NOT calling him and another well done on calling WA! You deserve support in this, you know, Waiting. Are they definitely going to send someone out to you? Or are you still waiting to hear?

Good to hear you're feeling a bit better. xx

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

Thanks garlic

Yes I know what you mean about services, I rang WA lastnight and looking at an outreach worker.

I'm feeling better than I did earlier but I know how close I came to calling him I didn't though.

[garlicnutty]

Waiting, keep accessing that help :)

Can the Freedom Programme facilitators help with accessing more support, or re-starting support you used to have?

I don't know the ins & outs of things but am aware that services tend to lead into one another. It's always worth trying the doors to see which ones open, iyswim.

[Mypopcornface]

You Re not keeping your children safe and they haven't been for a long time. wake up an smell the coffe. Do your children a big favour please

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

I'm not going to put what I think of SS

I am keeping my dc safe
I am accessing help if there's any left to acsess.

[garlicnutty]

[garlicnutty]

Lol @ "I'm spotty", popcorn.

DD1 has residence with the father. Both she and Waiting have falsely told the services he's not abusive. There's some sort of hearing coming up. I don't know the details.

It's a good thing we're anonymous here. I'd do time for grievous bodily harm to this bloke. He deserves to be on the receiving end for a change.

[Mypopcornface]

Not I, spotty, I'm SORRy

[Mypopcornface]

I didn't read the whole thread and I'm not very experienced in this subjected but I just want to say that I think SS waits too long to take children into care. In cases like this the children are already deeply damaged and they didn't deserve to have a life like this so far. I'm spotty OP if you love them and want to keep them but if you can't keep them safe TOUGH. I wonder if your daughter has been already sexually abused? Poor children I feel so sad for them.

[garlicnutty]

[Waitingforthestormtopass]

had to laugh at the carwash still laughing now but I get what you mean for me it was going round tesco at 2 o clock in the morning because ICould

[garlicnutty]

We could start a 12-step group

Trouble is, we'd have to meet on here!

[garlicnutty]

It's wrong because it's bad for you, love. You're right, it's hard. People who use heroin get desperate for another fix, it's very similar. Even though it's only going to put them to sleep and make them poorly - and they know it - it takes strength to resist the craving. The good news is, it passes. The more times you don't give in, the stronger you become.

Says Garlic, who can't give up smoking

Abusers gradually make you feel like you don't exist without them. This is handy for them, because they don't really recognise that you have a life of your own: they're only interested in you when they feel like pulling your strings. Like a puppet. They get you out and bugger you around, then shove you back in the box till next time. After they've trained you to be a 'puppet', you sort of forget that you have, in fact, got a life of your own and can do whatever the hell you want of your own free will.

You have got a life, you can do stuff all by yourself! You know this, of course. So do something just for yourself! What do you really like doing? Call me weird, but I love automatic car washes. After X2 left, I took my car for a wash every day for about a fortnight Just because I could.