Did you miss your old house after you moved?

[Madmog]

I know we are making a good move to what could be a home for life, feels safe around there, have a friend in the road who says our neighbours are nice, but as we're coming up to exchange I know I'm really going to miss my present home and all that's good here. I know not everyone would go for it, but it's ours, cosy and we have such good neighbours (one lot we will keep in touch with, in fact, talking about staying in same place in a year or two together), but ...

[isseywith4vampirecats]

the only thing i miss from our last house is the kitchen it was a lot bigger than this one (26 cupboards and worked ) this one though its there it needs ripping out and starting again and even when redone will only be 12 cupboards,

[Skinnychip]

I missed the place/way of life more than the actual house. We moved from zone 2 to a commuter town, and I missed the noise and busy-ness and buzz of London for quite a long time (although I have loads more friends where we are now)

[Missing16]

HalphGracie
I'm struggling horrendously in missing my old home, I doubt I'll ever get over it and, like you I've suffered from (crippling) clinical depression. I've seen your last post from earlier this year but I just wonder how you supported yourself through the nightmare?

[Missing16]

Dillydolly
I read your post from 2014 and wonder how you are now?
You see I'm going through EXACTLY the same heartache ... I absolutely regret with all my heart that we moved. I'd love to know how you've coped please?

[jemsywemsy]

I really REALLY thought I would. It was the home we brought our babies back to and meant the world to me. Cried many times at the thought of leaving. But from the moment we posted the spare keys through the door, no I didn't at all. Love my new house and even though my old house is nearby and I sometimes pass it I never feel that pang I thought I would. Just a smile as I remember happy memories there and it's nice to think of a new family making theirs.

[Bluntness100]

I've nerver missed a house and have moved several times.

However when the time comes and I have to leave this one, I will be terribly sad.

We've spent a ton renovating it and I love it, it's ours, our style , our taste, but more than that, we are rural and have a huge three acre garden and it's a mature landscaped garden. It's so pretty with all the flowers and plants. I still can't actually believe I live here nearly three years on and I've never lived anywhere like it. I was brought up in a council flat and through a mixture of hard work and also luck at work, we have moved ourselves up the property ladder.

At some point it may become too much for us. It's one of those houses that seldom come on the market as each owner has lived here for about thirty to forty years and only sold when old age forced it. 😔

[megletthesecond]

Yes. The location was nicer. But this house is far bigger and more suited for a family. My closest neighbour wasn't exactly welcoming either.

[yomellamoHelly]

Yes. But there was a reason we had to move and that's still valid. Doesn't help that this house was a shit-tip when we bought it and I wasn't able to get people in sort it all out from the off which is what I'd wanted to do, that it has been much harder work than I anticipated and that it still needs a lot of work.

[ladybird69]

I've lived in 4 houses but house No 2 was my dream home, I loved e everything about it, unfortunately my family lived up the road so exH made us move! I still miss it now and I had dreams for years that we co-lived in it with the new owners in the style of Beetlejuice i.e. they couldn't seeus. It affected me that deeply. The other houses basically unpacked and felt at home but that one was the love of my life 😢

[MusicToMyEars800]

we moved from a house to a flat, and though I do like our new home, I really miss the house ( though I hated the house ) I miss the openness, privacy and garden

[halphgracie]

Hi guys, how are we all doing? Further update its been 14 months since our second move to our new build having probably (understatement) acted a little on impulse; even 14 months down the line I still do think of our first house but more frequently think about the money pit we walked away from, endlessly convincing myself- I would have made it work. I have been made very ill from this whole jounrney and certainly had to grow up and learn a lot about myself during that time. Pretty much had a breakdown mid way through it all too; my only advice is do not ever rush into things, seek Council from those who you trust before you make decisions, it's very easy to make silly emotional decisions against sensible judgements. I do appreciate my new build throughout the winter; the split panels and £20 a month gas bills are great 😂 My little girl loves it and so does my wife for dog walks as we overlook a huge park so I guess it's just me who has probably just gotten myself into a bizarre habitual pattern of negative thinking. I can only say if you are wanting to move, make sure it's for the very correct reasons as the emotional attachment to some properties can be very hard to detach. Take care guys, stay positive and appreciate what you have #attitudeofgratitude

[BreezyThursday]

I miss old house over a year on, but don't regret moving. We swapped brilliant location for size.

[phoria]

wow, i'm glad it's not just me who regrets moving. really miss my old area and wondering if i should sell up but it's only been a few months. :(

[Belle8292]

I've been through the same thing I moved and cried uncontrollably it's hard i have to admit if you are planning on moving I highly suggest you rethink that decision it was honestly the worst decision I made it's hard I've been depressed because of it it's like my life has frozen and I can't unfreeze it that's just my advice so ya

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

So get in first and get it taken off the market STC Then there's nothing to compare it to?

You should go and see it, you may well find lots of flaws buried under the perfect photos and if nothing else it will give you some nice ideas. I've viewed plenty of houses where the money has clearly been spent on decoration and nice furniture rather than badly needed rewiring and new windows !

It may well also go for well over the asking price which will give you a good idea of what yours will be worth as and when you find the funds to do it up.
Disclaimer, I have previously bought the house across the street

[TheElementsSong]

Tread I soooo want to go and see it! Problem is that nobody would want to buy our house would they? When right across the road is a far superior house for almost the same money? The difference is stark indeed!

I have (seriously!) bought a lottery ticket during my lunch break - don't want to win the jackpot, just want enough to make it financially viable to buy that house opposite.

[purplefox]

Yep - 3 years after I moved still I miss it. Huge rooms, lots of space, spare bedrooms, ensuites, oak floors, so much light, huge garden, and amazing views and if it wasn't in the most ridiculous, inconvenient location with terrible schools and the nearby ex-H who used to park at the end of my drive to "watch" me everyday I would have never moved.

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

Go and see it TheElementsSong !! Yes you would have to pay stamp duty but you wouldn't [potentially] have to do any more work yourselves [cost and hassle probably as much as the stamp duty]

[catbasilio]

I wrote in this thread before (10 months after moving) and I am here again. It is now 14 months after moving. I do feel much better. And this is why: I put my current house on the market 3 months ago, got an offer and started to look buying in the old area. It helped me to remember the reasons why I bought the current house in the first place as I didn't like the houses that I viewed now. My buyer pulled out 1 week later - thankfully, as I was beginning to realize that the current house ticks my requirements and I am fairly happy here. I have not put it back on the market since.

The second thing that helped massively, is that I made an effort to create a FB group for my estate and distributed 500+ leaflets inviting to the group. Over 100+ lovely people joined and it appears we have a lovely and caring community. So all of a sudden the estate converted from soulless to buzzing. I am totally in love with that.

I am definitely staying for the next couple of years at least, then I will see. I am much happier already than I was 4 months ago.

[JT05]

Our old house is being completely gutted, although there was no need, other than the new owner wanting to rearrange the plan. I feel upset, not about the house, but that the new bathrooms and kitchen that were so thoughtfully designed with good quality fittings and carefully looked after, are now in a skip.
Never look back, is the only answer.

[princessmi12]

We moved house less then a year ago and I was feeling exactly as you feel OP just before the move!
But our new house is so much better, we never actually miss the old one and see previous life as forgotten distant memory!

[TheElementsSong]

A house just opposite us has just come on the market, naturally I couldn't not have a look on Rightmove. And it is perfect in every way - the layout is just how I would have done it, kitchen and bathroom are well-designed (obviously can't tell whether the workmanship is OK from the photos), the decor is exactly to my taste, many of the original features have been preserved, and the garden is larger, not as badly overlooked and needs no work.

The asking price is only a little higher than for our horrible house and well within our budget. In fact, the difference is almost exactly how much we have already spent on remedial maintenance works (to the outside of the house, making no difference to our standard of living inside).

I literally feel sick . Yes, literally. I've tried not to pine for my old house, tried not to dwell on what a huge mistake we made buying this house, and now I have to look at that For Sale sign every day .

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

I miss the West facing garden. It was lovely to have the setting sun in the summer evenings.
I really missed it for the first year as we had done up our first home together and the second one was an even bigger wreck so starting all over again was harder somehow the second time around. We paid for a lot more to be done by professionals. It's lovely when we look back at photos now of what a shithole it was though because it is sooooo much nicer now.