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Join our Primary Education forum to discuss starting school and helping your child get the most out of it.

Primary education

In Yr2 kids same sex relationships lessons

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yasminluv · 25/01/2018 21:50

Hi
In Year 2 they have a day where kids learn about samesex relationships
It’s after Easter apperantly is that nationally and is every school different

If this to happen How can I as a parent address this with the teacher the fact that I don’t want him to participate

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0hCrepe · 25/01/2018 22:34

as an ex Christian I can remember only too well the stress in trying to marry up a philosophy of pure love with a doctrine of prohibition and punishment. It was a great relief when I unshackled myself from an outdated politically driven ancient manuscript.
If you really were ok with being gay you would be fine about it. You’d be fine about it if your own son grew up to be gay.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 25/01/2018 22:34

In my religion, same-sex relationships aren't treated equally. I'm C of E and the Church won't marry gay couples.

But I think it is missing the point to say a child 'doesn't understand' or 'isn't interested' in relationships. It's not about their relationships, is it?! At this age, it's about their understanding of Bob and Bill or Liz and Sue down the road, whose child is in their class.

yasminluv · 25/01/2018 22:34

ShitWit where in Christianity does it say women are less

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Judydreamsofhorses · 25/01/2018 22:34

My friend and his partner recently adopted a little boy. They were pleasantly surprised to find they were only one of a number of “two-daddy-families” in his school, and there are also several “two-mummy-families”. I would be really amazed if a seven year old didn’t know some children have two dads or two mums, in the same way some children just have one parent, tbh.

Aeroflotgirl · 25/01/2018 22:34

He sees me and dad together, and has some understanding, but I think that would be better later on when kids are older. Don't think he understands about marriage. He is developmentally delayed so probably a bit immature compared to his peers and his understanding not too good.

mrsmrsmrsmrsmrs · 25/01/2018 22:35

Bloody hell - Mumsnet is on fire this evening. OP I understand your concern with your strong religious background and as one pp suggested, ask to have a look at the info they will be talking about. Hopefully it will put your mind at rest.

Not all children will have been exposed to same sex relationships, especially in a strict religious community - OP was merely asking a question and probably it is not just her that will want to know the information.

OP doesn't think same sex relationships are wrong but I would think that quite a few elderly family members of hers might and she is right to want to handle the situation carefully.

TheMathsTrainee · 25/01/2018 22:35

I'm not sure a 7year old has clear concepts of the different types of love and relationships between e.g. friendships, boyfriend-girlfriend, parents, parent-child etc etc. as a frame of reference. So they could get quite baffled I would imagine, if it was introduced as a thing.

As previous poster said, it's all around us and quite normalised on TV etc., to be it seems to be making an issue of a non-issue to have a specific session on same-sex relationships.

Thistlebelle · 25/01/2018 22:35

My DD announced that she wanted to marry her best girl friend when she was 2yo.

I said “that’s nice dear but you have to wait until you are a grown up.”

it’s not that complex.

Ihatepompoussoccermums · 25/01/2018 22:35

My kids are not learning this at school, but are vaguely aware as my uncle is gay and we are close with him and his husband. My 10 year old DS understands more but isn’t really phased. If they were to teach it I wouldn’t have a problem. I know for a fact you are legally allowed to remove your child from all classes , I think except for English, maths and science.

feral · 25/01/2018 22:35

My son is 5 and I've talked to him about this in a method appropriate for his level. I don't want him to see same sex relationships as different from same sex ones. The younger the better I feel. They feed off us at this age.

Because I'm not a homophobe. Sounds like you are and as though you're raising your child to be one too.

MissMouseMcPhee · 25/01/2018 22:35

Aeroflot really?????

This is an actual conversation about same sex relationships with my four year old.

Him - "Mum I'm going to marry Jessica from nursery."
Me - "That's nice."
Him - "Or maybe Jack. Can I marry Jack cos he's a boy"
Me - "Yes, of course you can. But you don't need to choose right now because you can't get married until you are a grown up and you're going to meet a lot more people that you might want to marry. You might decide not to get married...who knows"
Him - "that's true"

The end.

BashStreetKid · 25/01/2018 22:37

Your religion presumably doesn’t believe in murder. Do you keep your son away from history lessons which will regularly feature murder and worse?

Namechanger124 · 25/01/2018 22:37

I dont understand why they have to have a full day of learning about same sex couples... way to normalise it..... our school just teaches it as part of the whole sex education/pse/family/all about me type lessons.
At 7 it's more of a some mummies/ladies love daddies and some mummies love mummies and some children have 1 mummy and all families are different etc

feral · 25/01/2018 22:37

You deserve to be judged. Religion has a lot to answer for.

Aeroflotgirl · 25/01/2018 22:37

I have never had that conversation with my dis Miss probably because he has SN and does not understand marriage, or mabey is not that interested in it just yet!

QuizteamBleakley · 25/01/2018 22:38

Not atheist, thanks. Would love to hear some more views from your religion. Like, abortion, role of a wife, women's duties and so on.

Callamia · 25/01/2018 22:38

Is it a whole day? Cool.
Do you have any idea what would be taught/talked about? I’m guessing not. Why don’t you talk to your child’s teacher first, instead of diving off about not letting your child participate? Be an adult about this.

If you genuinely think you can hold a position where you don’t want your child to learn about same-sex relationships, but you’re not homophobic (because that’s some cognitive dissonance) - then go and talk to the school.

Your child will very soon have a notion that same-sex relationships exist. He will want to know why you disapprove so strongly. I hope you have a good answer.

JaniceBattersby · 25/01/2018 22:38

I’m RC OP. Although officially, the church doesn’t promote same sex relationships, in practise, pretty much every Catholic I know including priests (and, apparently, the Pope) has absolutely no problem at all with same sex relationships. There are two sets of Mum and Mum in my eldest child’s class alone in an RC school.

yasminluv · 25/01/2018 22:38

Aeroflotgirl Thank you

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IcanMooCanYou · 25/01/2018 22:39

You CHOOSE to follow a religion that is homophobic. I'm assuming you follow the word of your god? Your god says homosexuality is wrong. But you don't think it's wrong??? Are you saying you disagree with what your god teaches? (see, it doesn't add up does it?)

MissMouseMcPhee · 25/01/2018 22:39

'I'm not sure a 7year old has clear concepts of the different types of love and relationships between e.g. friendships, boyfriend-girlfriend, parents, parent-child etc etc.

I really want to meet these 7 year olds. In p1 the kids in my son's class were playing "kisses" - of course 7 year olds understand different kinds of relationships.

lifetothefull · 25/01/2018 22:41

Remember that these lessons are prepared and given by people who are experienced at working with children and dealing with their questions. I don't expect they will be discussing sex at this stage, if that is what you are worried about, more about the different make up of families. Eg some children have 2 mummies, some have just a mummy at home, some live with mum and dad etc. It is worth talking to staff to find out what they are being taught so that you are aware

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Thistlebelle · 25/01/2018 22:41

I'm not sure a 7year old has clear concepts of the different types of love and relationships between e.g. friendships, boyfriend-girlfriend, parents, parent-child etc etc. as a frame of reference.

Maths You’re kidding right?

You are talking about an average 7 yo? And you don’t think they would understand the difference between “friends”, “boyfriends/girlfriends” and “parent child” relationships?

Have you actually met a 7 year old recently?

(Aero given your update I appreciate your position is slightly different)

yasminluv · 25/01/2018 22:41

mrsmrsmrsmrsmrs Thank you you do understand me

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Starlight2345 · 25/01/2018 22:41

Just curious what you will do if your Ds is gay ?

My Ds about 6 asked me if 2 men could get married . I said yes . He jumped about excitedly as he could marry his best friend.

I don’t necessarily agree with all the religions , that school teach . My son is taught to be respectful and acceptance of other people’s choices .
Your Ds is no more or less to be gay no matter what age it is .

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