My 12 year old son has got a detention every day for the past two weeks, mainly for talking and messing about in class and for refusing to work. Any advice on how I can get him to improve his behavior? Thank you
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Son has got a detention every day for the last 3 weeks
rob38 · 06/07/2023 17:06
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 17:30
It’s a question which schools should be asking but which they often don’t - hence neurodiverse kids being labelled as naughty, “ffs”!
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
WeeOrcadian · 06/07/2023 17:31
What consequences have he faced this last two weeks?
FrippEnos · 06/07/2023 18:15
Everyone has to have a label so that they can use it as an excuse.
Hence the reason that neurodiverse kids don't get the help that they should.
(ignoring the lack of funding, training and in some cases parental support).
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 17:30
It’s a question which schools should be asking but which they often don’t - hence neurodiverse kids being labelled as naughty, “ffs”!
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 18:18
“Ignoring the lack of funding, training and in some cases parental support”
yes yes it’s labelling children that is the problem, LOL.
FrippEnos · 06/07/2023 18:15
Everyone has to have a label so that they can use it as an excuse.
Hence the reason that neurodiverse kids don't get the help that they should.
(ignoring the lack of funding, training and in some cases parental support).
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 17:30
It’s a question which schools should be asking but which they often don’t - hence neurodiverse kids being labelled as naughty, “ffs”!
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
FrippEnos · 06/07/2023 18:22
Its a problem when some people see it as a reason to misbehave.
But you do you.
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 18:18
“Ignoring the lack of funding, training and in some cases parental support”
yes yes it’s labelling children that is the problem, LOL.
FrippEnos · 06/07/2023 18:15
Everyone has to have a label so that they can use it as an excuse.
Hence the reason that neurodiverse kids don't get the help that they should.
(ignoring the lack of funding, training and in some cases parental support).
Mummerator · 06/07/2023 17:30
It’s a question which schools should be asking but which they often don’t - hence neurodiverse kids being labelled as naughty, “ffs”!
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
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rob38 · 06/07/2023 18:16
Thank you for your messages, he does not have ASD or ADHD but has had a traumatic time in the past. I have spoken to CAMHS and he is awaiting an assessment with them in September for trauma. I have been giving him a ban from his laptop/phone when he gets a detention, but also spoken to him and school about which classes it is happening in etc. why it might be happening, and I have given him an incentive to do better for the next two weeks, £10 for every lesson he gets a thing called 'star of the lesson in'. He mostly gets into trouble in English class but gets into the same trouble in other classes too. He has said that there isn't anything causing his behavior, but it has started at the same time as other issues possibly related to past trauma.
Livinginanotherworld · 06/07/2023 17:13
Why does bad behaviour always come down to this ffs ! Maybe give him some consequences?
DustyLee123 · 06/07/2023 17:08
Speak to school. Does he have any signs of ASD or ADHD ?
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