I know most people go through it with their children but he is absolutely cracking me up.He is brilliant at school-butter wouldn't melt.He never gets in trouble,in fact he would be mortified at getting in trouble there.His back chat and arguing that black is white at home with us has made me think it must be the way we've brought him up-although someone once told me if he's good everywhere else then you've done a good job and not to worry.I have tried everything.punishing him-earlier then usual bedtime,taken his ipod,ds,laptop,t.v. everything off him.Made him earn it all back.Sat and talked to him.EVERYTHING.I just feel like we're forever punishing him and it makes me sad,I don't want to be like that with him.He is in bed at 8pm normally and we let him read till 8.30pm so it's not like he isnt getting enough sleep.We only let him on ps3 for 2 hours(he's not really bothered with it the last couple of weeks anyway)at a time-that goes for laptops and handheld games.I just dont know what else to try or is it a case of carrying on how we are with him and once he knows we're not backing down he'll gain some respect for us?He isnt always moody with us,we can have laughs and talk normally,but it is majority amount of time.He hasnt started puberty,could it be his hormones starting up do you think?
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I keep reminding myself about the hormones quirrelquarrel thanks.I was a complete nightmare when mine kicked in for puberty so I am actually dreading that bit.Jesus,hope he is nothing like I was then.
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wow meditrina,I did that bit about how to "improve ourselves" and all has been working well so far.And you're right about the "its not what you say its how you say it" that is the bit that miffs me,but keep reminding myself (as already said)about the hormones might be kicking in.And that's a good point about the negativity,but I think we may have made him more negative about things because of our negativity towards him(a lot of negatives there sorry).As I said before,we practically jumped down his throat for everything the last few months and were stuck in a rut.I am on the right track now but dh needs to calm down with him still.He just gets "the look" though if he's over reacting,then he gets "the talk" when ds goes to bed.
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A law career-didnt think of that one.I always think of my ds running his own company(dont know what?),and when I picture it he's always been in a suit,at the top of a long table in a skyscraper with the city(somewhere in the U.S.) as the back drop,he says something(cant hear what?)then everyone at this huge table claps him!must stop watching so many films!
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Too much info me thinks!But think that would be a good thread to start-What jobs do you imagine/want your child to have?
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