i just need someone to listen.
i am an expat in the UK and just gave birth to my son at 34+5 days gestation. Where im from originally, that’s an automatic week NICU stay. Instead, I was sent home after 72 hours even though my son was lethargic after receiving photo therapy treatment.
Two days later and we are back in the PEDs ward at the alleged best hospital in the city because the NICU and post natal won’t take him since he has been discharged.
I hate the midwives that discharged him despite my concerns. I hate that everyone keeps asking if he’s my “first baby” as if I’m overreacting that he needs to be treated for jaundice for the second time in less than a week. I hate myself for not carrying him despite no signs there was a problem before.
i am terrified he has brain damage. His room isn’t finished. And all I can do is stare at him on a bili pad and pray there’s nothing seriously wrong.
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FraterculaArctica · 03/05/2023 08:21
Congratulations on your lovely new baby! I am sure he will be absolutely FINE.
I had a 33+4 arrival, a 35+2 arrival (and one born 11 days late). From experience - at this stage every hour, every day, seems like a huge event and you are desperate for it to go "right" - for your baby to be off phototherapy, for him to feed well, etc. This is normal. Further rd
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MaybeBabyTwo · 03/05/2023 06:46
Many 34+5 will go home. I would say most, actually.
Many babies will be readmitted to Paeds. You haven't failed him.
As for the 'hospital is disgusting' comment above, my eyes rolled so far back in my head 🙄🙄🙄 NICU is 'clean'. Babies from the outside world are 'not clean'. Once you've left NICU, you cannot come back in, to limit the risk to the other babies in the unit. That's pretty standard. 'Disgusting'... don't be ridiculous.
theotherfossilsister · 03/05/2023 11:11
This is so difficult. I'm furious they discharged you. I was in for eighteen days with my 35 week baby
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