I thought the first trimester wasn't as bad because for most of it there isn't a functioning placenta and the foetus is living off the yolk sac rather than getting nutrition from mum. I know nothing about biology though so could anyone explain it to me
The foetus goes from a single cell to something that looks vaguely like a baby in this time. It's a very delicate time. That cell has to divide, and and divide again, and then all those cells have to differentiate and move and form the body plan. It's a staggering process. It's also quite prone to disruption.
The foetus shares a blood supply from a few weeks, although it's not fully plumbed in until ten weeks or so. We still don't really know how it affects the foetus at this stage, it seems to be more of an all or nothing thing at the start. At the end of the first trimester alcohol can affect how brain cells move, develop and differentiate which leads to structural brain damage.
Later on alcohol seems to affect facial development and brain development- the facial issues are indicative of brain damage. Alcohol causes physical disruption to brain development and this in turn leads to the symptoms of FAS.
It's important to note that alcohol damage is a spectrum, from very very mild to very severe. It's thought that 1-2% of pregnancies are damaged somehow by alcohol, although full FAS is rarer.
Having said that.... there are trace amounts of alcohol in things like orange juice, and yoghurt. Small amounts do not seem to do harm, and the data backs that up. No one should be pilloried for having a glass of fizz with food. The current guidelines are reasonable.
I personally didn't drink at all, but a small drink with food, slowly, once a week shouldn't cause alarm. Drinking daily, or more heavily, or binging, is a different matter