In such a confusing and difficult situation and need help please!

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

According to my dates I am 10 weeks pregnant (10 + 1) but today I had a scan which showed that the baby was only measuring 6-7 weeks and there was no heartbeat, so was told that the baby had most likely died :( anyway so then I was given a blood test to determine my progesterone and HCG levels in order to make the decision about what type of medical intervention to go for. This is where it gets confusing - my HCG and progesterone levels are not consistent with the baby having died! In fact I have a progesterone level of 19 (normal range for the first trimester is 9-47) and HCG level is 52,509 which is also consistent with a 6-8 weeks pregnancy!
Now I know I didn't get my dates wrong because my LMP was on 4th November but I only came off the pill at the end of August and so I suppose it's possible that my cycle was not yet regular?
I am very confused and don't know what to think. The doc wants me to go back for another test on Monday to see if progesterone levels are rising but I am finding it hard to wait! Had anyone had anything similar happen?
In case you are wondering how I have managed to have a blood test and results already today, I am in China ;)
Thanks in advance for any or all responses

[SunnyDayDreaming101]

I am so sorry you are going through this, and I cross everything that it works out well for you.

The uncertainty is the hardest part.

My story is not reassuring however. I had a bleed at 6 weeks, hormone levels consistent with 6 week pregnancy, had a scan and size was right but too early for a heartbeat. Had a scan the following week, increased size and hormones but baby hadn't grown as much as expected, same again the following week but we seen a heartbeat, it was slow but present. Same scenario weekly until 10 weeks when I miscarried. Apparently if the genetics just are not quite right a baby can continue to develop just not correctly. At the time I was devastated, heartbroken and well there are no words truest.

However in time I came to realise that if growth had of continued there was no hope for that baby, I could have lost it at any point later in pregnancy or as a newborn and that would have been much worse for both of us.

Now 26 weeks with a healthy, long legged active little bundle due to be born in May this year.

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this and I hope with everything that your dates are a little off and this little bean is just a slow starter and will catch up.

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Thank you SunnyDay and I'm sorry for your loss. Lots of luck for your current pregnancy too :) I think you're right that often a baby that isn't developing properly would not have been healthy. I will be very surprised if I get good news tomorrow but I can't help hoping a little!

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Does anyone have any specific experience of progesterone and HCG levels after a MMC? For example, if the HCG is still rising but not doubling as it should within 48 hours, should I assume the baby isn't viable?

[BertieBotts]

They tend to have to test HCG twice to get an idea of what's happening with it. It's worrying when they say it's too low but in fact they can't tell anything based on a single reading. They need to see if the levels are rising (and how fast) or falling or stagnant over 48 hours.

Good luck for tomorrow.

[BertieBotts]

Yes, if it's doubling too slowly that unfortunately means it's not viable.

[Treetophouses]

Polly - hope it turns ok but it's not looking good I think. From what you write, the most likely scenario that explains size and hcg is that baby stopped growing a few weeks ago, hence too small for current dates, but only died in the last week therefore hcg still high. I've been through the testing and waiting and hoping against hope, it's dreadful. Hope you can find out tomorrow. Hugs!

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Thank you all so much for your responses, both positive and negative. It really helps me to be able to manage my expectations a little. I'll update you after I get the results :)

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Sadly I found out today that my baby had definitely died at 5 weeks 6 days. Thank you for all your support and kind words x

[BertieBotts]

Really sorry Polly. That's sad news. When you're ready if you feel like it there is a lovely supportive thread in conception called TTC after miscarriage. No rush and whatever timescale you feel is right (lots of ladies join before they are ready to TTC again).

Take care.

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

OP I'm so sorry, I lost a baby around 6-7 weeks 5 years ago, it was my second pregnancy. I've since had another healthy baby. I had medical management, if you have any questions feel free to ask me or PM me.

[ATailofTwoKitties]

Oh Polly, I'm so sorry. I too lost my first pregnancy (21 years ago) and only found out at the first scan. I have three hulking teenagers now, but I've never forgotten that heartache.

Be kind to yourself.

[3luckystars]

I am very sorry, I have been through similar and it so sad. Thinking of you today x

[BestBeastie]

I'm so sorry Polly. It's so awful, I know.

Just take a pause for a little bit and prioritise your health and your emotional well being.

[ferriswheel]

I am so sorry. That is devastating news.

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Thank you all. I have to have a surgical procedure, probably going to have it on Saturday. (Sorry, I think there's an acronym but because I'm not in the UK I'm not familiar with it). If anyone has any experience of this please share, as I have no idea what to expect!

[MouseLove]

So sorry polly. Unfortunately my friend had the op at the weekend. She was sore but had been very poorly for weeks before. I'm really sorry this wasn't a positive outcome for you. X

[fuzzywuzzy]

Polly so very sorry for your loss.

I had the surgical management of miscarriage last May.

They described it as sucking everything out.

It was done under general anaesthetic and was a very short procedure I was back on my feet immediately.

You should not be bleeding lots or in pain apart from small period like cramps after.

I bled brown/spotted for a few days after my successful procedure and had a negative pregnancy test. I was told to test a couple of days after the procedure to ensure HCG levels were properly falling.

They did also ask me if I wanted to have tests on the resulting matter to see why I miscarried (which I agreed to), also they ask here what you want to do with the remains, so be ready in case they ask you that.

Have someone with you for the day and really take care of yourself. It took me a lot longer to emotionally and mentally get over the miscarriage than physically.
But to give you hope I am now 21 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby. I couldn't face ttc immediately after and waited a few cycles before having enough courage to do so.

I hope you will be well looked after, and take as much time as you need to grieve for your loss.

Hugs

[ConvincingLiar]

Sorry to hear that