Most people have been really happy for me. Funny a few people when I told them I'm pregnant they say well your not married or when are you getting married? Seriously it's 2013. I'm 27 and my OH is 29 we've been together for 10 years he is my only ever boyfriend and I love him dearly. We are engaged for about 3 years but just haven't got around to getting hitched. We bought a house together and renovated and invested a lot of money in to that. We work full time so in our free time we like to go on holidays etc. Before baby gets here lol.
To me money is better spent on other things than a wedding that I know will get totally out of control. (Nothing wrong with having a massive wedding just not for me )
We both decieded when we do get married we will do it in a registry office on the quite and cheap.
But after these comments I feel like my OH and I aren't seen as a proper couple. Tbh my relastionship is better than a lot of marriages I know.
It's the one thing I never thought would be a problem untill I've told people were having a baby.
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Reactions when you tell people you pregnant? Like disrespectful comments.
Sarahmains40 · 30/09/2013 17:32
A variation on the 'was it planned' was from a woman who started at my work when I was about 14 weeks who in the middle of a conversation said ' don't worry you'll get over the surprise of being pregnant soon and settle into it'. My reply being something along the lines of 'er, it was planned, I'm cool with it thanks'. She finished with 'oh sorry, I just assumed at your age it must have been a mistake'. I'm 36!!! 
Ah Sarahmains40, you reminded me! I had morning sickness too, and while I was throwing up my (generally lovely) MIL commented to DH that she'd never felt better than when she was pregnant. Very nearly shouted through the bathroom door that she could shove her pregnancy glow up her arse 
Also in the throes of morning sickness plenty of people told me it didn't last forever, and that there was "only" another 6 weeks or so til it would pass. And there I was wondering how I'd get through the next 5 minutes!!
A variation on the 'was it planned' was from a woman who started at my work when I was about 14 weeks who in the middle of a conversation said ' don't worry you'll get over the surprise of being pregnant soon and settle into it'. My reply being something along the lines of 'er, it was planned, I'm cool with it thanks'. She finished with 'oh sorry, I just assumed at your age it must have been a mistake'. I'm 36!!!
From my mother-in-law (who is obsessed with my weight)...
'So, are you going on a diet now then?'.
I am a size 16 but 6ft tall so not exactly morbidly obese, and I was back in my jeans within four days of DS1. Not that I feel the need to explain!
She also asked once if I was doing a marathon overnight walk for Cancer Research to lose weight.
My own mother. All our babies were planned and she knew we wanted four eventually.
DC1 - "Oh, it's early days, anything could happen" (4 weeks)
DC2 - "Oh, it's early days, anything could happen" (I was 10 weeks with good scans!)
DC3 - "Bugger"
.. DC4 (this one) - "Congratulations!"
I guess she finally worked it out..!
FIL. We have his only grandchildren, so he's hardly inundated with them, and he lives 8 hours away: "Three is a good number, you should stop at three" 
Bet he felt bad when we told him a few weeks later I was 12 weeks gone with DC4!
im heavily preg ffs honey I get that too, from my gran, every single time I see her. It's always followed by "is he awake?" because she wants to feel my stomach. I've started ignoring her, I'm not just a fucking baby machine 
I've also had from my gran, when I had awful morning sickness and was managing a plate of chilli (the only meal I'd been able to eat that day), "you just don't stop stuffing your face, do you?! Look at you shovelling it in! Eating for two then?" Cheeky cow. Wonder how she felt when I threw it up 20 minutes later
I've also had (from MIL), "So you're just eating anything and everything then?" and "you definitely look like you've been eating for two, you've put on so much weight!" I've actually lost weight everywhere but my belly (my arse is a sorry saggy thing now :(). She even said this when I was eating strawberries. Fruit. It's not like I was tucking into a chippy, and it's none of her business even if I was!
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