Most people have been really happy for me. Funny a few people when I told them I'm pregnant they say well your not married or when are you getting married? Seriously it's 2013. I'm 27 and my OH is 29 we've been together for 10 years he is my only ever boyfriend and I love him dearly. We are engaged for about 3 years but just haven't got around to getting hitched. We bought a house together and renovated and invested a lot of money in to that. We work full time so in our free time we like to go on holidays etc. Before baby gets here lol.
To me money is better spent on other things than a wedding that I know will get totally out of control. (Nothing wrong with having a massive wedding just not for me )
We both decieded when we do get married we will do it in a registry office on the quite and cheap.
But after these comments I feel like my OH and I aren't seen as a proper couple. Tbh my relastionship is better than a lot of marriages I know.
It's the one thing I never thought would be a problem untill I've told people were having a baby.
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Reactions when you tell people you pregnant? Like disrespectful comments.
Sarahmains40 · 30/09/2013 17:32
"People always ask us if we planned it. I am going to say 'no, it was an accident, we meant to do bumsex'"
I had "was it planned?" from 3 people with my first pregnancy. I was 30 ffs.
For dc3 I had "oh, and you had just begun to get your life back" from a good friend of mine 
It was a much wanted (trying for 6mths) 3rd child!
I huffed. (subtly.)
With DD1 we weren't married but had been together 6yrs, both working, own house etc. I got plenty of when's the wedding? We did get married when DD was 7mths but was already engaged for a long time before that! Also got a couple of is it congratulations? What else should you really say lol. When we told my DM that we are expecting again this time woth DC4 her first words were never mind 
Had loads of people asking if we own a tv aswell. Nothing can beat MIL reaction to holding her first born 6hr old DGD 'Well you broke the chain cos my family only have boys first!' Should have been a sign but 6 yrs later and she hasn't seen DD since that day. Although apparently had commented to other members of DH family that it seemed odd that it wasnt a boy first and were they sure he was the father!!
Also hate when MW asks if you are pregnant by same man. Seeing as I've been with DH since I was 16 (he was 17) and he's the only man I've slept with, I should hope so lol.
So sorry to read some of the stories on here. Pregnancy is supposed to be one of the most exciting times, shame on some of your families and friends for their comments! 
Its one thing to get it from strangers but close ones its out of order!
Thanks supermum I was thinking of situations but I didn't come up with them. That's a very good point in those situations.
I'd imagine your friends found it very helpful, I'd hope if I was in the position someone would pull me aside as sometimes you don't think of these things. I'd like to think I'd be happy to receive such information as long as it was the first thing I heard after announcing 
God this is horrendous! I don't think I've ever said anything more personal than "Oooh how far along are you?" or "Wow, that's exciting!" to a pregnant person Where do all these horrible women come from???
When I was pg earlier this year, totally unplanned, my mother not only asked if bf would be marrying me, but also informed me repeatedly that that I'd never cope, would have no money, bf would split up with me from the stress, she and my dad wouldn't help at all, and I'd be stuck all alone in our flat in a shitty area with a tiny baby and no help or support. Unfortunately she convinced me so well that I had an abortion .
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Oooh that was quick! We got married in April, are in our mid 30s what do people expect?! I think because I am quite irritable at the moment silly comments wind me up!
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